Social media is such an integral part of our livelihood. Thinking back to the days before the internet, I wonder how we were able to live without social media. Now, there are millions of households with a computer where families use them for businesses, family interactions, and more.

When we log onto our social media profiles, we do it with a certain level of anticipation; to see what our friends and families are up to, to promote our products, businesses, and anything else that makes social media so enjoyable to use. The downside to using social media is the exposure to double standards and the one-sided perception of beauty…particularly about women and their sizes.

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Social media gives some folks a platform to express their senseless ideologies about women’s sizes, and it just proves how ignorant they are to create memes that undermine women with a slender physique. They’re just as silly as the people who share memes of that nature.

If the woman was born with a vagina, then she’s REAL, regardless of size! Because she’s a size two, doesn’t make her any less, or more, of a woman than the next woman.

What is “real” supposed to be, other than being made with cells, organs, molecules, and atoms?????

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There’s nothing wrong with women, or men, appreciating thicker curves, but do that without demeaning women who are not as curvaceous!

Women…if you are curvy, be proud of that shit, but don’t put down your slender sistah to elevate your confidence. Beauty really does come in all sizes!

Guys…if you appreciate women who are “thicker than a snicker”, then that’s your preference. However, it doesn’t show how much of a gentleman you are when you put down women who are not as thick. What kind of a man does that?

 

These types of memes are full of rhetoric and it’s more problematic than encouraging. People who create and share these memes would think they help boost confidence, but they can cause division and self-image issues more than anything else. The inaccuracy and pettiness of these memes are what burns my soul, and I see them on my social media newsfeed daily. Kids are considered the impressionable ones, but certain adults can be just as impressionable by what they read when the material or content applies to them.

A REAL woman is not based off what size she is, her realness is based off what she’s made of..water, flesh, bones, and in our sistahs’ case…MELANIN! Her confidence should come from how she feels about herself without putting the next woman down.

Society does enough of downplaying women with thicker figures, which is why it should be understood that undermining sistahs with skinnier frames won’t make us feel any better about ourselves. That kind of behavior will only make us look like we need higher self-esteem.

The next time you see a “real women have curves” meme, think about it before you press “repost’. You could be dividing, instead of helping.

 

Lakia Nichole

Lakia Nichole’s Blog is a platform to showcase love for my people, our culture, and all positive things in-between.