When getting to know someone, we are quick to assume that because they’ve impressed us, they will eventually give us what we need when it comes to relationships.

We burst our own bubble when we realize that our partners are finding ineffective ways to meet our needs and we are left disappointed among other things.

No relationship is perfect and not everyone is perfect, including ourselves. Let’s pinpoint the fact that if we don’t  know what we need emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and/or physically, or don’t know how to take care of our own heart, then we will unconsciously expect someone else to. We’re putting responsibilities on someone who has absolutely nothing to do with our well-being.

We can’t expect our partners to meet our needs when we can’t meet them ourselves. Expectations, among other things, is what kills relationships! Once we realize that, we’ll have a greater chance at better communication and better understanding.

We try to justify our actions when we claim “He/she’s not treating you the way you need to be treated”, when in fact, you’re not treating YOURSELF the way you need to be treated.

It’s time to stop pointing fingers and evaluate where the core problem lies.

It’s you…and always has been you.

Until you become aware of your responsibility, you will always look to your partner and it’s not fair to either one of you.

Just remember, if down the line you two don’t work out, you will feel emotionally drained because you left your heart in the hands of a person who couldn’t do a job that was meant for you.

You want to be well enough to the point where you can let go with emotional responsibility and move on peacefully.

We all owe ourselves that.

Never go into a relationship with expectations, especially if you’re lacking in self-awareness. If you want a healthy relationship, make sure you know yourself and recognize your needs first.

Lakia Nichole
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