Social media allows us to share many things…to a fault.

Sometimes, we can abuse our social media, subjecting our followers to pointless stuff from endless selfies that all look alike to videos of humans having sex with animals.

It’s all enough to make us want to drop off the face of the earth. The job of social media is to provide convenience through digital/virtual assessibility, escapism from the real world while socializing with other folks from all over, and its purpose is to make our lives easier. With what we see daily on our timelines, some folks don’t need to have social media.

As a result, I feel compelled to share the 8 ways we can utilize our social media better.

Be resourceful– We love information that we could use for our benefit. From a link to an informative article to a special recipe, being resourceful for your followers/friends is a helpful way to utilize your social media. Your friends may not say it, but they appreciate information like that.

Be encouraging– You’ll never know what a daily motivational quote or your positive status updates can do for a person feeling discouraged. Your motivating post might be the match to light their fire.

Share events– For some odd reason, promotion teams  sucks when it comes to promoting upcoming concerts/shows/plays/etc. and has for the last few years. Someone who could be a fan of an artist will appreciate your generous sharing of website links for tickets. The last three concerts I attended I found out through social media.

Network- What’s social networking when you don’t network? When it comes to socializing on social media, there’s nothing better than connecting with like-minded people. This will also help you gain more attraction for your business or brand.

Promote your brand/business– Promoting your brand/business on social media will really boost its popularity. Because social media gives you broader access to social media users all over the world, you’ll have a greater chance at profiting.


Stay in touch with family & friends– Social media is great, especially for staying connected with family and friends, particularly those who are out-of-town.


Create a forum/Group with a meaningful purpose– A positive public forum that is dedicated to having discussions on topics involving awareness, solutions, bettering communication, and bridging the gap is a great way to socialize.


Stay interactive– From experience with my social media, I can tell you that no one likes a “wallflower”. Someone can tell when you’re not active when they view your conversations on your profile or lack thereof. If your social media profile shows your last status update/picture/tweet was posted months ago or all we see are game updates, then maybe you don’t need a “friend list”.  Otherwise, be interactive. Let your friends/followers know that you’re there to socialize and network and not just taking up space on their list.




Twitter blasted Justin Timberlake for his comment after Jesse Williams’ moving BET Awards speech. When Justin tweeted that he was “inspired”, a gentleman by the name of Ernest Owens hit him with a question that some of us wanted to know the answer to.


Timberlake hit the tweeter back with this questionable reply…

He then “apologizes” for his tweet



Dear Justin,

I get that you were raised to appreciate black culture, but let’s get a few things straight, because obviously, you have a hard time distinguishing the difference between the human race and the black race.

Just because you love R&B doesn’t make you the same as us. Just because you used to rock cornrows doesn’t make you the same as us. Just because you claimed on BET’s 106 & Park, that you like black women, doesn’t make you the same as us. Just because you’ve used the hottest black producers for most of your music doesn’t make you the same as us. Just because you have black fans doesn’t make you the same as us. 

I know you didn’t say or tweet any of that, but I had to use those examples for clarity. Justin, I like you and yes, I’m not going to deny that I am a fan. Hell, your last album, ‘The 20/20 Experience’, is one of those albums I play often on my playlist. However, Being a fan of your work will never equate to my acceptance of you as “part of us”. I highly doubt that you’ve had to struggle like black folks has to struggle on a daily basis in a society that constantly portrays us in a negative light and devalues us as a whole.  Are aware of the plight of being black in America? Do you watch the news? Do you read the paper? Do you see or read about anyone who looks like you as a headline because some trigger-happy cop decided to kill, just because?

Being black in America is deeper than growing up, appreciating the black culture; liking our music, imitating our fashions, and having black friends. My black brothas are in the streets, dying senselessly from people who are paid to serve and protect. 

Another thing…

As a black person, it burns my soul to see folks in the industry like you get recognized for something black folks were doing for years, but were never recognized because of the color of their skin. 

This is not a piece about supporting division, but rather give the readers an observation of what we as black people face, regarding division. From regular Joe in the Hood to Joe, the highest paid black entertainer, we are always struggling with division, because of our skin color. 

Yes! Black people, white people, and ALL people are all a HUMAN race. There’s no denying that. BUT we have never been “one” and we never will. Black folks have completely different experiences from non-black folks in this country, and the sooner some of you all realize that, the more your third eye will reveal. 

And before some of you get ALL BENT….let me make this disclaimer and say that at this day in age, I feel there is no longer such a thing as “black music” and “white music”.  However, Wikipedia defines R&B (Rhythm & Blues) as a genre of popular African-American music that originated in the 1940s. The term was originally used by record companies to describe recordings marketed predominantly to urban African Americans. Although, the meaning of R&B music has shifted over the years, you best believe there is no wrong in black folks claiming R&B, because it was black folks who originated it. You all can’t get mad at some of us who still refers to R&B music as “our music”. If you’re mad, stay mad.


Justin, I hope that one day, you’ll come to understand why people like me has a problem with that “we are one/ we are the same” bull for legit reasons that I’ve tried to convey in this piece. I also hope that this piece doesn’t offend you or your fans who feel the same way. The reality is evident in how people who look like you are treated and how people who look like me are treated….and the reality is…we are NOT the same. 


A realist

Looks like someone is trying to make life hard for Shad Moss AKA Bow Wow but failed miserably….even on his birthday! The rapper turned actor took to Twitter to share his recent experience…. with a birthday cake delivery???


Who did Bow Wow piss off???


Moss, who celebrates his 29th birthday today,  has a recurring role as “Brody Nelson”  on CSI: Cyber.

Folks were heated when the handler of the Twitter account for the Times Square ball used an insensitive hashtag, trying to amuse his followers. Instead, he insulted many of them by mocking the Black Live Matters movement with the hashtag, #BallLivesMatter.



Tweeters didn’t hesitate to tell the account handler about his self.


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The account handler has since deleted the tweets


Source: Complex


via NY Daily News:

Social media users were up in arms over the tweets – the first sent at 9:47 p.m. and the second at 10:43 p.m. – that bizzarely touched on the “dismal” U.S. economy while also equating the 108-year-old ball drop to a racist institution.

“The ball this year has become Racist due to the dismal state of our economy in 2015,” an unidentified social media manager tweeted just after 10:30 p.m. on New Year’s Eve before abruptly deleting the message.

Earlier in the evening, as the event swelled to more than a million people, @TimesSquareBall tweeted to its 20,000 followers “#BallLivesMatter,” a spin on the Black Lives Matter movement that the handle used multiple times yesterday.

“The tweet was unacceptable and indefensible. As soon as event organizers became aware of it, it was removed immediately,” Times Square New Year’s Eve said in a statement.

“The person responsible was an independent freelancer and will not be engaged again.”


Ayesha Curry, lifestyle blogger, author,  and wife of Golden State Warriors Point Guard Stephen Curry, tweeted her thoughts about not being a fan of provocative attire and chicks who were #TeamScantilyClad turned her Twitter mentions in shambles! There were so many women in Twitterland who were salty about this tweet!



Chile, folks (mostly women) came at her with the most insensitive and disrespectful replies. A lot of women thought she was wrong and rude to tweet such a comment. Some thought she was being judgmental while the rest thought she was just lame.

My thoughts: I’m just amazed at the high levels of shade and disrespect that this woman has received, because of her modesty. In neither tweet, did she express thoughts of slut-shaming or any kind of criticism`. She mentioned no one in particular and simply expressed her desire to “cover up” for the one who matters…her husband. You’d think she’d receive more love because she respects her husband in her own way, but nah…#TeamScantilyClad gotta get all in their feelings and attack the poor woman on social media.

This society is ass backwards!


That woman…a woman of God, hard-working author, chef, blogger, and wife of a sports star who travel, while being a mother to their two kids, is obviously showing a good example to her children and young women who look up to her. That alone should earn that woman respect! One casual tweet about choosing “classy over trendy” and y’all attack her in her Twitter mentions like she twitpic’d your closet! Y’all seriously need to chill!


This just goes to show that the right gets crucified while the wrong gets celebrated. Ayesha Curry has every right to feel the way she does without getting verbally attacked by sensitive chicks whose idea of their “going out” outfits are printed leggings and tops from Baby Gap! Get out of her Twitter mentions and let a sistah live!

People can’t have an opinion nowadays because so many folks think too much of themselves. Even when an opinion has nothing to do with them, there’s something inside of that makes them get defensive. Either you’re mad because it’s true, or your guilty conscience won’t allow you to chill because the opinion of another is somehow relevant to your life. Either way, we all should realize that people’s opinions are just that…opinions.

There’s an old saying…

if it don’t apply…let it fly!




Social media can be a gift and a curse depending on which day you login. I was apprehensive about joining and I don’t really remember why, but I was. After some convincing from my mother to give Facebook a try I jumped feet first into the social media pool. A pool that sometimes can be really shallow.

One of the cool things about social media is connecting with people you may have lost contact with over the years. For example, I wanted to get in contact with one of my old counselors from high school and I didn’t know how to. I was able to get her email address because one of my former high school teachers was able to help me through Facebook.

On the flip side things tend to become ridiculous at times. I read online that a random person on Instagram called Solange’s son ugly. I was disappointed because this has become common practice now. I can’t fathom how people make disparaging remarks about someone before they even brush their teeth. I hold some things sacred and I never would do something so silly. People try to out jackass each other. The other day I saw a derogatory comment on an Instagram post about somebody’s daughter making them a birthday cake. How do you hate on that?

Social media has opened the floodgates for people who have nothing better to do than troll people on the Internet and then hide behind fake screen names and stock photos. I love when I see good things trending on social media and I cringe when I see the cell phone videos going viral. There is never going to be a time when people don’t watch train wrecks. That is what it is. I choose not to be a part of the foolery.

Then sometimes we get those out of context videos. Narrative can be twisted any way we want and at the end of the day we have to make our own conclusions. What is on those videos sometimes is another whole blog post. When things evolve sometimes they evolve negatively. That’s what happened with some aspects of social media. There is the constant spamming or being added to groups on Facebook you wouldn’t dare join.

I didn’t think FOCUS was Will Smith’s strongest movie, but I’m not going to go to his social media page and call him a piece of shit actor now. That’s ridiculous. I remember when author/reader or actor/moviegoer interaction was respectful. There was an invisible wall there. Now with social media people think it’s okay to bash (not critique) an author or actor only because they have the means to. Sometimes it’s not even about their projects which is just utter nonsense.

I also hate when a person blasts someone on social media instead of handling the matter privately. Some things I don’t want to know or need to know. Social media is just an image. It’s what we want people to see us as. If we put any and everything out there the social media platforms would explode.

On a good note, I do think it’s a phenomenal tool that has helped more than its hurt, but sometimes I do miss the days before social media.

The days of walking into a bookstore and discovering new talent organically. Marketing wasn’t spamming a Facebook group and hoping something sticks. Your work sealed the deal and people latched on to quality. I had no problem having separation between me and the entertainer (author/actor/etc.) That’s just me. Some people like having access to celebrities or entertainers for the sole purpose of spitting vitriol at them. That’s corny to me and I’m sure their time could be used for something more constructive.

Social media is what you make it and when I log on I’m there to have fun. I implore you to do the same.

Now if you’ll excuse me I’m going to make a call on my house phone with a cord and write my next blog post on this typewriter.

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