If you’re a fan of the hit crime drama on Starz, ‘Power’, then you know what I’m talking about. If you don’t understand what I’m saying, let me break it down for you.

During each season, Tasha St. Patrick (played by the gorgeous Naturi Naughton) displays signs of the typical “ride or die” syndrome. As a mother and a wife of a drug dealing-club owner, she is a strong believer in her husband’s rise in the drug empire. That alone, proves that Tasha is nowhere near innocent. She actually encouraged James to stay in the drug biz when he wanted to get out.

 

However, you can’t help but admire Tasha for the shit she’s been through with James, yet, she stays be his side. When James run into an old girlfriend, Angela Valdez, who he later starts an affair with, Tasha’s world starts to crumble. Tasha had to put away that hard exterior and become vulnerable to her husband. It led to a much-needed discussion about how things went wrong in their marriage.

We all saw what went wrong.

When Angela walked into that club, all James saw was old pum pum, replacing current pum pum, and making it new pum pum. (colloquialism for vagina, if you’re wondering)

 

I thought Tasha would just leave the marriage, but my girl had other plans!  She uses their driver, Shawn, to gain  information by flirting with him. The flirting turns into furtive sex with Shawn as a way of getting back at James after finding out he and Angela’s affair.

Despite Tasha’s revenge sex, she still loves James. She loves James so much, she looked past the possibility that James might’ve had something to do with Shawn’s sudden death. (The murderer was actually Shawn’s own father, but let’s save that for another blog post)

Although Tasha’s storyline is glorified for our entertainment, Tasha, as a woman, is relatable…not unrealistic. Her anything-goes personality and sometimes manipulative behavior intrigues us. We put ourselves in Tasha’s shoes, wondering if her actions would be our actions. Would we leave or go after the discovery of our significant other smashin’ another woman? It puts things into perspective for a lot of us, especially those of us who’d feel we’d never develop that “Ride or Die” mentality.

As I’ve said in my piece here, I’m not married, but I expect the married folks to go by the whole ‘Ride or Die’ phenomena, because that’s how you keep a marriage strong. I guess I’m old-fashioned because I don’t think ‘Ride or Die’ should apply to folks in basic (sexual) relationships. Too many folks confuse loyalty with being taken advantage of and as a result, they ‘stick around’, because they feel obligated after putting so much energy into establishing the relationship. They also put up with shenanigans because of how they feel about the person. I guess loyalty depends on what a person is willing to tolerate.

In Tasha’s situation, it’s a bit different. She has financial security, living the lavish (and dangerous) life. She also encouraged hubby to stick it out in the drug game, and she has children with him. It’s clear that Tasha did all the things a wife and mother did before James’ affair with Angela. Even after finding out, she still let her guard down and let the love for her man take over by giving up the honeypot.

Tasha had a moment when she looked herself in the mirror and when I saw that I thought, DAMN! As I saw the tears flow, I could only imagine how it would be for me if I was in Tasha’s shoes. You come to the realization that, even in real life, no amount of love, kindness, dedication, loyalty and soul-stirring love-making will keep a man who doesn’t want to be kept.

Long story short, Angela is an Assistant United States Attorney who had James arrested after allegations that he had her ex-boyfriend and co-worker killed. So much for the new pum pum becoming the current pum pum.

Now in season 4, Tasha puts on her cape, takes care of her children, and bosses up while her man is behind bars. If That’s not “Ride or Die” I don’t know WTF it is!

Tasha is doing what she has to do to keep her family together. As a “Ride or Die”sistah, is that smart or is that being foolish?

(Photo by Imeh Akpanudosen/Getty Images)

 

 

Whether we like it or not, reality shows has dominated television for years. Since MTV’s groundbreaking ‘The Real World’, it’s been a snowball effect with other networks, including VH1 and BET, following suit and creating non-scripted television for their targeted audience.

 

The E network is making a killing in ratings with the Kardashians and their show, ‘Keeping Up With The Kardashians’. The show debuted in 2007, and E keeps it going with Spinoffs, including one for Kylie Jenner in the near future. However, I’m convinced that their producers ran out of show ideas years ago and viewers are just bombarded with pointless storylines.

I’m just over them.

I don’t know about you, but The Kardashian Klan has invaded my television long enough. I don’t even tune in to the E network, but I see images of them everywhere. At least we know they’ve hired a bomb-ass publicist!

 

Despite the popularity and the entertaining value of The Housewives and Hip Hop of “whatever city”, they are hard for me to mentally ingest, so I cannot bring myself to watch. The idea of grown women calling eachother out of their names and going for each other’s throats every week doesn’t give me that “Netty & Ceily” feeling. You know what I’m saying?

I’d rather see MORE images of US displaying our magic for the world to witness, and I can think of a few folks who can do that and more. These people deserve a visual platform such as a reality show to showcase their brilliance. These young ladies and men inspire, motivate, and are people young black girls and boys can look up to. They’re talented, their art is of substance, and as a fan of each of them, I am proud of how they represent for people of color.

Beyonce and Solange

If another reality show about sisters is what television need, We TV could add Beyonce and Solange Knowles to the lineup after ‘Braxton Family Values’. Their show would chronicle Bey and SoSo’s life off stage as wives, mothers, and siblings. Of course, Mama Tina would get a few cameos each week. We’ll get an inside look at Bey as a mom of three children, including her brand new twins. We would get to witness how Solange used her creativity to produce ‘A Seat At The Table’ and what inspired her to create such a dope ass album.

Chloe & Halle

Speaking of Beyonce, her proteges Chloe & Halle are the epitome of black girl magic! These sisters were discovered on Youtube by Beyonce and signed them to her record label. Their reality show would chronicle their lives as sisters developing the passion for music. Why they started a YouTube channel, and it will also chronicle their experience on tour with their mentor. Their class, their cuteness, and their sense of style is definitely worth documenting for the world to see!

 

Yara Shahidi

This beautiful actress and future student at Harvard is a young lady to watch for. The ‘Black-ish’ actress not only stuns us with her beauty, but the well-spoken teen exemplifies a person of great intellect. If Michelle Obama personally sends a letter of recommendation to your school of choice, YOU’VE MADE IT! You can clearly see by her interviews/speeches, her passion for human rights and social justices. I’m sure her double majoring in African-American studies and Sociology will solidify her ability to spread much-needed messages to her peers. Our young people will need her. Yara’s reality show would chronicle her transition from the set to the classroom.

 

The Cast Of The New Edition Series

These guys seem like such a close-nit cast, It would be nice to watch a documentary-style reality show of their experience from the auditions to the final day of filming.  The series pulled in over 30 million viewers for BET. I was super impressed at how authentic the series was with capturing the group’s rise to super stardom. Well…when you have the actual group members as executive producers, biopics will be better. Pay attention lifetime!

 

Kendrick Lamar

 

Everything I’ve said in this piece about Kendrick Lamar, still holds true for me.

Kendrick Lamar is not only one of the greatest hip hop artists of our time, he is an artist who hasn’t let his fame get the best of him. He deserves a reality show…something I feel his apparent humbleness won’t allow him to do. However, I feel a reality show chronicling Kendrick as an artist who stays grounded in an industry that is over-saturated with rappers in skinny jeans and blouses NECESSARY. We’d get to witness K-Dot in his natural habitat, his hometown of Compton, California. He’d be taking the trash out for his mom in one scene, and in the next scene he’d be in the studio creating another masterpiece and planning another tour Overseas.

 

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I don’t get it….

When we finally get good quality television that us black folks can be proud of and begged for, we turn around and do some ridiculous shit like NOT support.

We’d rather be glued to the ratchet reality shows that make us look bad.

 

To be honest, I know we watch what we like to watch and I get that. I’m not criticizing anyone who likes ratchet reality because it is entertaining. However, I’m convinced there’s a thin line between entertainment and embellished buffoonery. We criticize Hollywood for not scripting shows that depict people of color in a more positive light, and when they finally do, these shows drop in ratings to women who pull each other’s weaves off over cheating athletes and hip hop artists on national television.

Television is becoming so saturated with ratchet reality, that it’s making me nauseous. Do we really want to spend every day watching what “Tameka” do what she does to “Shay Shay” over her side boo, the basketball star? Do we really want to spend every day watching hip hop dudes verbally and physically slaughter each other over music beats and “bad bitches”?

Thanks to ratchet reality television, we’ve been inundated with imagery that captures the false perception of black culture. I’m convinced that people of color who are television entertainers are only good enough to “entertain” in a way that is selectively acceptable to mainstream Hollywood. We can’t tell a story that is too deep like ‘Underground’, too eye-opening like ‘Sense 8’, too heroic like ‘Pitch’, and ’24 Legacy’ and too light-hearted like ‘The Get Down’. Shows like those aforementioned will not succeed in ratings because apparently, we like folks to have dragged out fights over pure fuckery.

I have to stay mindful of the entertainers who don’t mind getting a check for a good fight scene! As long as we keep watching, they’ll keep getting paid. Get yo’ money, boo!

All I’m really trying to say is give these scripted shows a chance! They really are GOOD QUALITY SHOWS, but we’ll never know because we keep out channels tuned into VH1, which is the network for the ratchiest of ratchet! We’re even losing ratings on video streaming sites like Netflix. How does ‘The Get Down’ get canceled?!? That’s about the origin of Hip Hop, for crying out loud!!!

I’m pleasantly surprised that ‘Blackish’ is still on the air!

Let’s see how long ‘The Carmichael Show’ lasts!

 

These shows gave a good fight!

‘The Get Down’-This show lasted one season on Netflix

‘Pitched’-Fox canceled the drama, Pitch, after just one season. It was about the first woman to play in the major leagues.

 ‘Underground’-Even with a huge following, this critically acclaimed series lasted only 2 seasons, after the WGN’s parent company was purchased by the right-leaning Sinclair Group. The reason? They said they were going to move away from scripted shows.

‘Legacy 24’– Despite the huge reboot starring Straight Outta Compton’s Corey Hawkins, the Fox series failed to deliver in ratings. It lasted one season with Hawkins. The original ’24‘ starred Keifer Sutherland., lasted over 8 seasons.

‘Rosewood’-Morris Chestnut’s police procedural drama was canceled after two seasons on Fox.

‘Doubt’-I have to actually research this one because I never knew about it. Doubt, the CBS drama starring Dulé Hill and Laverne Cox was axed after only two episodes.

‘Sense 8’-Lasted 2 seasons on Netflix

 

 

When Viola Davis accepted her Oscar Sunday night for ‘Best Supporting Actress’  for her role in fences, she actually made history!

Ms. Davis has become a part of what the industry calls the “triple crown club”. She has won an Emmy, a Tony, and an Oscar, making her the first black artist to do so.

Via NME:

By winning the Best Supporting Actress award at last night’s Oscars for her performance in Fences, Viola Davis made history.

The actress added an Academy Award to her Emmy (which she won in 2015 for her performance in TV’s How To Get Away With Murder) and her two Tonys (for King Hedley II in 2001 and Fences in 2010) to complete the so-called “triple crown of acting”.

Davis is the first black woman to achieve this impressive accolade. Though Whoopi Goldberg has also won an Emmy, an Oscar and a Tony (as well as a Grammy – making her an ‘EGOT’ winner), neither her Emmy nor her Tony was won for acting.

Davis becomes the 23rd person ever to complete the ‘triple crown of acting’. Other stars to have achieved the accolade include Helen Mirren, Maggie Smith, Al Pacino, Jeremy Irons and Frances McDormand.

 

 

The groundbreaking sitcom, ‘A Different World’, made everyone want to go to college and  it cultivated the anti-stereotypical perception that all young African-Americans are not trouble-makers. A spin-off of ‘The Cosby Show’, this sitcom kept us aware with their socially conscious storylines and gave us a glimpse of what black college life is like.

Some of their storylines also gave us a glimpse of black love between two of its’ main characters, Dwayne and Whitley. The growth of Dwayne and Whitley’s relationship on the show provided a visual template for viewers, on how to develop a healthy, loving relationship. Here are five lessons Dwayne and Whitley taught us that we can implement in our relationships.

 

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Be friends first– The greatest foundation for developing a healthy, loving relationship is to be friends first. There’s a saying that the greatest relationships started off as friendships, and I couldn’t agree more! Being friends forms a respectful and genuine bond between the two of you and holds you two together like superglue before and after intimacy. When you form a friendship, you already have a certain level of bond, you two already know each other’s ins and outs, and you are comfortable with one another.

 

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Be honest with how you feel – When Dwayne and Whitley had their first REAL kiss, Dwayne was honest in telling Whitley that something was happening between them and wanted to talk about taking their friendship to the next level. Whitley tried to fight her feelings and avoid the much-needed conversation because she was afraid. Although Whitley was trying to deny her feelings for Dwayne, Dwayne took the initiative and put the cards on the table for her.

 

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Don’t play games with the heartThe Summer Dwayne wrote and sent letters to Whitley, Whitley didn’t send any in return. Whitley told Kim and Freddie that keeping a man “yearning” makes him want her more. Dwayne ended his summer be returning to campus from Japan with his girlfriend, Kinu. This is a valuable lesson to all when I say that being self-centered is the gateway to a failed relationship. Don’t do what you wouldn’t want done to you…plain and simple. If you like him/her and he/she is showing you genuine interest, return it.

 

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You’ll never get over your true love– Dwayne’s relationship with Kinu ended when he realized he was still in love with Whitley. Again, Dwayne had to be honest with himself, as well as with Kinu and that was the best decision for them both. It wouldn’t have been fair to Kinu, to Whitley, or even himself, to carry on in a relationship while he had feelings for another woman. Whitley left such an impact on Dwayne, that even her flaws (and she had plenty of those) couldn’t keep Dwayne away from her. This was also true for Whitley, even though she waited until the day of her wedding to call things off with Byron Douglas III

 

Accept each other’s flaws– Both Dwayne and Whitley had their fair share of shortcomings, but that never deterred them from staying in love. Dwayne grew from a geeky freshman with flip-up glasses to a distinguished business man with confidence. Whitley grew from a bougie princess to a more open-minded diva with more realistic expectations. Their personal growth developed by their love for one another, because they’ve accepted each other for who they are. Love brings out the best in people and Whitley and Dwayne’s relationship proved that.

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Remember the disaster of a hairstyle onThe Today Show’ done by guest beauty expert, Deepica Mutyala?

Well, I guess with all the criticism Deepica has faced, she’s reached out to some natural-haired sistahs to help get her RIGHT TOGETHER! The thing I love about this video you’re about to watch is Deepica’s transparency and eagerness to learn about black women’s natural hair. She admitted that she didn’t know much about our hair and without being harsh, the natural-haired beauties shared their wisdom and personal experiences with their hair.

I was pleasantly surprised to see the model whose hair Deepica messed ALL THE WAY up on ‘The Today Show’. How cute was it for her to get revenge by creating the “hairstyle” Deepica did for her on national television?!

 

Questlove is the drummer for the Grammy-Award Winning band, The Roots. The well-loved drummer sat down with Matt Lauer of ‘Today’ for a trip down memory lane. He opened up about what it was like to grow up in a musical household, competing against BoyzIIMen as students at the Philadelphia School Of Performing Arts, having to be home from school before ‘Oprah’ came on, how he came up with his moniker, and so much more!

There are two versions of this interview.

Press play here for the short version of Questlove’s interview


To watch the full 30-minute interview, press play here

 

‘Justice With Judge Mablean’ is being called out as a fake televised court show when a prior episode of a case  circulated online, which producers obviously snatched from the pages of the classic film, ‘Imitation of Life’.

 

It’s been discovered that “Sandra Johnson” was played by actress, Janeva “Unique” Pettway.

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Her REAL Mom, Latosha McCoy, confirmed when she congratulated her daughter on her “performance” via Facebook.

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Has ratings been THAT bad that producers gotta steal from a film? Did they think viewers weren’t going to notice or figure things out???

I wonder what Judge Mablean has to say about this!

Here’s a clip from the epic classic, ‘Imitation of Life’.

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