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I think episode 4 of Season 2 has the most “Oh My God” moments out of all the seasons thus far!

 

The episode begins with Issa, Molly, & Kelli doing what most girlfriends do together…get En Vogue-ish for a party. They hit up a day party called ‘Kiss & Grind’ (Must be a thing in L.A) and Issa is eyeballing every other dude in the place, including the bouncer. We all know at this point, Issa is trying to add more dudes for her HO quota. Issa’s turnin’ up until she sees Daniel, the guy she cheated on Lawrence with, across the room.

Meanwhile, Lawrence is driving to the grocery store but is stuck in traffic, so he does a U-turn and as a result, get’s pulled over. The cop asks for his license and registration. It becomes a tense moment for Lawrence, until the cop returns and lets him go with a warning. The cop even tries to makes light-hearted conversation about giving him a ticket for being a Hoya fan ( he saw a bumper sticker or license plate…I can’t remember).

Molly reconnects with Dro, a high school friend, but things get hot & heavy when they grind all on each other on the dance floor. Molly cuts it short, telling Dro that his wife, Candace, wouldn’t like what’s happening. Dro confesses that they’ve been in an open marriage for a year. Molly is dumbfounded by the news, but y’all know her vagina did a cart-wheel when he told her. She ain’t slick!!!

 

While Molly’s vagina is doing flips, Lawrence is at the grocery store, purchasing drinks for a meet up with his homeboy Chad, but realizes he doesn’t have his debit card at check out. Two women behind Lawrence offer to pay for Lawrence’s drinks. The ladies who we’ll just call Becky 1 & Becky 2, meets Lawrence in the parking lot and is hella flirtatious with him. Lawrence being the ultimate fuck boy that he is accepts their invitation to “hang out”, after dismissing his original plans with Chad.

 

Back at ‘Kiss & Grind’, Issa and Daniel have the most AWKWARD conversation that leads up to a discussion about how they left things the last time they saw each other. Issa shares with Daniel that she should have handled the situation differently. Daniel shrugs it off, saying it was months ago and claims he’s fine. According to my observation of how he looks at Issa, he still wants her! I’m convinced.

Meanwhile, Lawrence is mingling with Becky 1 & Becky 2 at their place and things get real raunchy when Becky 1 straddles Lawrence and kisses him. Becky 2 follows suit and starts kissing Becky 1 and Lawrence at the same time. It was like watching the start of straight up porn!

Back at ‘Kiss & Grind’, Issa is set to meet up with another Tinder-mate, but when they finally meet, homeboy is all kinds of discombobulated about Issa’s appearance and the sound of her voice. Apparently, Issa wore her hair different from the image he saw and I assume she sounded cuter on the phone.

 

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Back at the Beckys place, Lawrence is puttin’ in WORK with this threesome and the Beckys are enjoying every bit of his “work”. Becky 1 is ridin’ Lawrence like he’s the only other human on Earth with a penis, but by the time it was Becky 2’s turn, Lawrence was tapped out! He tries to “recharge” but Becky 2 doesn’t appreciate his effort and both are, at this point, done with him. Apparently, he came too fast, unlike the other black dudes they’ve mentioned. The Beckys begin to ignore Lawrence as if they don’t even see his tall black naked ass in their bed. They have poor Lawrence in bed looking like…

 

The ladies leave ‘Kiss & Grind’ and end up at a place to eat, where Issa, again, sees Daniel. They are also there with gentlemen they’ve met at ‘Kiss & Grind’, minus Issa. Her Tinder dude met the REAL Issa and immediately dropped her like a hot potato. While at the restaurant, Dro texts Molly and asks if she wants company. She started to reply with what looked like a yes but pressed that backspace button with the quickness. She turned him down.

 

Kelli and her “Kiss & Grind dude”, are flirty and annoying at the same damn time! Issa, who’s sitting next to them, can’t seem to shake off the Ls she’s taken all day. On top of that, she has full visual of Daniel dining with friends at the other end of the restaurant. The night can’t get any worse for Issa…or so we thought. Kelli’s flirtiness with her dude comes to a halt and she becomes physically overwhelmed by a “feel good” moment. Issa looks at Kelli with an expression that implicates she has an idea what might be happening. Daniel is watching all the finger fuckery (no pun) and texts Issa, telling her that Kelli’s dude is fingering her under the table. Chile’!!! Issa grabs her plate and goes sits with Daniel.

 

My thoughts!

 

It’s pretty clear that both Issa and Lawrence are using these ppl they sleep with as a way to heal their broken hearts.  Issa doesn’t need to spend her nights swiping mobile profiles for her next sexual conquest, and Lawrence doesn’t need to have random, unfulfilling sex with women who will chew him up and spit him out.

 

Molly needs to stay far away from Dro. Only two things can come from this situation and neither is good.

1….he could be lying just to get Molly’s honeypot

2…the word “friends” go out the window once sex is involved.

As fans, we had to point out to Issa & her team of writers about the lack of safe sex inclusion in their scenes. I’m glad she responded.

 

Until next week!

 

 

 

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Can we just start with praises to Issa and her team for including two bad-ass cameos from Luke James, Lil Rel, and a bad-ass featured role with Sterling K. Brown?

Episode 3 starts off with Issa at one of her Tinder Mate’s (Luke James) crib, starting her self-initiation into singledom. For some odd reason, Issa cannot get past his little fingers, which she obviously uses as an excuse to not go through with the sex. She leaves the guy sitting on the sofa, with a “I picked a strange one” look on his face.

 

Meanwhile…Issa and Frieda are taking wins with the awesome turnout at their “We Got Y’all” tutoring program. However, for a school that has a majority of Hispanic students, Frieda questions why there are only black students that are showing up. Issa tries to convince Frieda that it’s not an issue.

While at work, Lawrence gets invited to a tech mixer event by his coworkers…on the same day as Tasha’s family cookout. Did he attend the cookout? Yup! long enough to bring some chairs, meet a few family members, scope the rest, caught somebody’s teenager twerkin’ while playin’ a flute, then he just had enough!  After about 10 minutes at the cookout, Lawrence tells Tasha he has some “work thing” and will be back. That “work thing” was the mixer he was invited to.

In the meantime…Issa is in her kitchen, painting over her fire damage when she takes notice of her fine ass neighbor. This gets better….

 

Lawrence is at this mixer while dodging Tasha’s call and time escapes him. After answering the 2nd call, Lawrence confesses to not being at work. After telling Tasha that he isn’t ready for anything serious, Tasha reclaims her time and reads Lawrence for filth, calling him a”fuck boy who thinks he’s a good guy”.

 

After a discussion about hoism and how Issa wants to go through a ho-phase, she kindly asks Molly to teach her how to be a ho. Offended, but Holly obliges and plans a girls’ night out to a bar, where they meet some guys. Issa’s awkwardness scares all her potentials away. Meanwhile, Molly meets Lionel (Sterling K. Brown) and they immediately hit it off.

Issa may have struck out at the club, and at home, after she discovered her batteries in her vibrator died, but my girl put on her Super Ho cape and went to her sexy neighbor’s place the next day. It’s amazing what you and a made up story of a phone charger can do to get some penis. That’s was Issa’s mission, and she got it. It was awkward starting out, but after a while, they found their groove. Just one question…WHERE’S THE CONDOM???

 

 

Molly & Lionel goes on a date, and they’re getting along very well. I hope she doesn’t fuck this up!

 

My thoughts….

Issa has the right to explore her sexual freedom the way she chooses, I just hope the writers include some responsibility for Issa’s character. Safe sex inclusion in prime time cable is so scarce.

I’m proud of Tasha for standing up for herself. She put her feelings for Lawrence aside and made herself a priority when she GATHERED him on that phone. I was a little disappointed when she invited Lawrence to the family cookout,  but not surprised. When you’re in need to feel secure in a relationship, you’ll do things that you’ll feel will solidify it.  For Tasha, inviting Lawrence to meet FAMILY was her way of telling Lawrence that what they have is more than just “a thing” to her. The problem with that is Tasha was forcing the issue. It’s like…you know he likes chocolate ice cream, but makes him a chocolate cake when he doesn’t like cake. However, you make him a chocolate cake, anyway, because he likes chocolate. He’s already proven to like only chocolate ice cream, but you either don’t care, or you have selective hearing. He’s gonna eat the cake because you made it…you made it FOR HIM. It doesn’t work like that.

Molly has met Lionel at such a critical time in her life. Let’s hope what she’s dealing with at work and her reasonings for therapy doesn’t conflict with her connection with a man, who oddly enough, reminds me of a male Molly.

 

That sexy neighbor will be knocking on Issa’s door every other day, wanting to borrow some sugar 🙂

 

Until next week!


Last week’s episode of ‘Insecure’ left us discombobulated along with Issa after her 1-minute hump session with Lawrence. Episode 2 starts off with the bestie, Molly, asking mad questions about how and why it happened. Issa didn’t have many answers because, since the sofa romp, Lawrence only replied to Issa’s texts with “one-word responses”.

As far as Molly, her therapy session is better in this episode, because she is more open. She expresses not being paid as much as her white male counterpart and in the midst of it, her therapist catches Molly’s repetition of the word, “should”. She spoke about how and why things SHOULD happen in her life on a few occasions, which her therapist points out. Molly’s therapist asks, “If your “shoulds” didn’t come to fruition, would you be open to your life looking a different way?

 

 

 

 

The therapist tries to get Molly to dig deep and find the cause and effect of her personal troubles, but Molly is too focused on trying to be queen money machine at the workplace.

 

Meanwhile, Molly, Issa, and Kelli attend a museum event held by Tiffany and you know one of the things happens when you get together with your girlfriends….WE TALK AND FIND OUT SOME THINGS!!!

The ladies talk about how Issa should just move on and forget about Lawrence when Kelli mentions Tasha. Little did Kelli know that Issa never knew about Lawrence’s new boo. A name drop and a quick social media search are all they need to shade Tasha in the name of sisterly support. Despite Issa’s apparent hurt, she didn’t want to be petty.

 

Molly isn’t the only one with a workplace-related issue. Issa and her partner, Frieda, was having a hard time getting student participation for their organization, We Got Y’all, until they ask for help from the Vice Principal, Mr. Gaines. The problem with Mr. Gaines is his unfiltered attitude towards Latinos. When he receives help from the faculty advisor, “Ms. Alvarez”, he apologizes to Issa and Frieda for the lack of student involvement and jokes about the school needing to “build a wall” because of its overpopulation. The joke doesn’t sit well with either Issa or Frieda. Tension arises between them when Mr. Gaines makes another offensive comment to a group of his Latino students. Because of the progress they’ve made with Ms. Alvarez, Issa tries to brush it off and dismiss Frieda’s concerns about Mr. Gaines prejudiced behavior.

 

Meanwhile, Lawrence is at Tasha’s and they’re watching television together like a real ass couple. Tasha suddenly mentions inviting him to a family cookout, which catches Lawrence off guard. How does he quickly get out of it without saying no? He confesses to sleeping with his Ex!!! A dumbfounded Tasha tells him to leave.

Despite Lawrence’s fuckboyism, he finally finds a place of his own. The question remains whether he’ll get up off that air mattress at his boy’s crib and move in it.

 

There’s an awkward moment when Lawrence runs into Molly which leads to a conversation about Issa. The moderator in Molly takes over as she asks Lawrence questions that Issa should have asked herself. Molly had to go back and tell Issa that Lawrence was done.

Lawrence goes back to Tasha’s to apologize for what he’s done and tells her it’s over between him and Issa. Tasha plays the “put-her-foot-down” role really well, as she meets him outside. She pretends to not be interested in what he has to say, using food on the stove as an excuse to say goodbye. However, as he begins to walk away, Tasha lets her guard down and invites him inside to eat dinner with him.

The episode ends with Issa placing her pillow in the middle of the bed because when you’re in a relationship, you’re used to sleeping on one side! She gets comfortable on her bed, picks up her phone, logs on a dating app, and sends some dude a message, “tryna fuck?”

 

My thoughts on Tasha

I’m not gonna shade Tasha because let’s be honest, a lot of us has been in her shoes a time or two. Despite her knowing about Issa since the beginning, I actually feel sorry for her. Hopefully, she’ll realize that being Lawrence’s savior will emotionally drain her. There are a lot of Tashas in this world who will believe that a man will love them more, when in fact, they don’t love themselves enough to realize that they’re getting played like Lotto.

My thoughts on Lawrence

Despite how he treats Tasha, you gotta kind of sympathize with him too. Why? When you got a brotha who doesn’t know how and where to apply his emotional pain, he’ll do what he can do to take the pain away, even if is temporary. Tasha and her vagina….is a temporary fix. He doesn’t know it yet. The worst part of it is…she doesn’t know it yet, either. Tasha came along with admiration for Lawrence…something Lawrence needed to feel because Issa wasn’t showing appreciation for him. The problem with all of this is that it could have Tasha developing the need to be Lawrence’s savior….something Issa was subconsciously being for four years.

 

Until next week!

 

 

The Awkwardness of Issa and her crew are back in effect with Season 2 of ‘Insecure’, and as usual, the show left us all wanting more, as we are wondering what will happen between Issa and Lawrence. S2/E1 started off with Issa on a string of dates with random dudes, which is obviously her way of trying to get over Lawrence. As part of #TeamIssa, I could feel the disappointment Issa was feeling with these dudes because none of them was Lawrence. My girl has to resort to wack dates and swiping left/right on dating apps!

Molly took Issa’s advice in season 1 and started seeing a therapist. I’m glad that the writers decided to add that in the script. Black folks need to see images like that, making it aware that it’s okay for us to seek therapy. Us black folks have the tendency to associate being “crazy” with seeking help for our mental/emotional health. Despite Molly’s apparent reluctance to open up to her therapist, I’m glad she decided to take that step to better herself.

Meanwhile, Lawrence is still giving Tasha the BIZNESS from the back. We assume he likes that position because that’s how they left us in the last season. He was so mad at Issa for cheating on him with the other dude, he took it out on Tasha’s vagina! In s2/E1, he is still taking his anger out on Tasha’s vagina. on the weekends, at least, because let’s be real #TeamLawrence, he doesn’t want anything serious with her!

During one scene, Molly and Issa talked about dating and Molly mentioned that men try to come back when they see their exes doing well. That brought up a light bulb idea for Issa to throw a plus 1 wine-drinking party, hoping Lawrence would show up. Why would Lawrence show up? He has mail that Issa is trying to give him. (colorized for a sexual innuendo).

After Issa text Lawrence about the mail, he texts her back, saying that he would pick it up the next day. The next day, Issa threw her party, only to be disappointed when Lawrence texts her, suggesting she mails him his mail. Ain’t that some shit??? Molly sees her disappointment and follows Issa outside to talk. Issa eventually tells Molly that she used the party as a ploy for Lawrence to see “how well” she is doing. A drunken Kelli makes her way outside, interrupting Issa and Molly when she sees three dudes. Kelli suggests they join them but little did Kelli and Molly know that they’re Issa’s gang-affiliated neighbors.

Meanwhile, Lawrence sends that text while he’s at a restaurant with Tasha. This comes after a conversation with Lawrence’s friend, Chad, reminding Lawrence that he’s never taken the chick out. Lawrence is staying with Chad until he gets back with Issa he finds a place of his own, It’s funny how Chad gets a taste of what Issa was experiencing. During one scene, Chad tries to watch television but is disturbed by the sound of an air machine as Lawrence fills his air mattress…in the living room. Lawrence is like a pesky-ass freeloader you can’t get out the house.

Back to the party…things were going okay until one of Issa’s gang-banging neighbors started crip-walking. Next thing we saw, her trash can was set ablaze! Everyone scrambles to run out the house while Issa quickly puts out the fire. She’s left looking at a hot mess! (pun attended)…just like her love life.

The next night, Lawrence surprises Issa when he comes for his mail…..:-) a discombobulated Issa gives it to him but before Lawrence leaves, he uses the “left some things in the bathroom” trick to prolong his visit. As Lawrence begins to walk out the door, he turns around, grabs Issa and kisses her. He pulls off his pants, Issa pulls off her boy shorts, and they both end up on the sofa. Lawrence gives Issa eight pumps worth of penis!…not from the back though. That scene had me questioning what kind of sex that was! Was that “break-up sex”, “I miss you sex”, or “leave you something to remind you of sex”? Which ever kind of sex it was, that and Lawrence’s kiss to the cheek before he left put a smile on Issa’s face.

I think it was just sex for Lawrence and another way for Issa to be disappointed. That smile tells me that she’s read too much into that quickie. I am eager to see how their journey unfolds. Who are you with? #TeamIssa or #TeamLawrence?

Until next week!

 

If you’re a fan of the hit crime drama on Starz, ‘Power’, then you know what I’m talking about. If you don’t understand what I’m saying, let me break it down for you.

During each season, Tasha St. Patrick (played by the gorgeous Naturi Naughton) displays signs of the typical “ride or die” syndrome. As a mother and a wife of a drug dealing-club owner, she is a strong believer in her husband’s rise in the drug empire. That alone, proves that Tasha is nowhere near innocent. She actually encouraged James to stay in the drug biz when he wanted to get out.

 

However, you can’t help but admire Tasha for the shit she’s been through with James, yet, she stays be his side. When James run into an old girlfriend, Angela Valdez, who he later starts an affair with, Tasha’s world starts to crumble. Tasha had to put away that hard exterior and become vulnerable to her husband. It led to a much-needed discussion about how things went wrong in their marriage.

We all saw what went wrong.

When Angela walked into that club, all James saw was old pum pum, replacing current pum pum, and making it new pum pum. (colloquialism for vagina, if you’re wondering)

 

I thought Tasha would just leave the marriage, but my girl had other plans!  She uses their driver, Shawn, to gain  information by flirting with him. The flirting turns into furtive sex with Shawn as a way of getting back at James after finding out he and Angela’s affair.

Despite Tasha’s revenge sex, she still loves James. She loves James so much, she looked past the possibility that James might’ve had something to do with Shawn’s sudden death. (The murderer was actually Shawn’s own father, but let’s save that for another blog post)

Although Tasha’s storyline is glorified for our entertainment, Tasha, as a woman, is relatable…not unrealistic. Her anything-goes personality and sometimes manipulative behavior intrigues us. We put ourselves in Tasha’s shoes, wondering if her actions would be our actions. Would we leave or go after the discovery of our significant other smashin’ another woman? It puts things into perspective for a lot of us, especially those of us who’d feel we’d never develop that “Ride or Die” mentality.

As I’ve said in my piece here, I’m not married, but I expect the married folks to go by the whole ‘Ride or Die’ phenomena, because that’s how you keep a marriage strong. I guess I’m old-fashioned because I don’t think ‘Ride or Die’ should apply to folks in basic (sexual) relationships. Too many folks confuse loyalty with being taken advantage of and as a result, they ‘stick around’, because they feel obligated after putting so much energy into establishing the relationship. They also put up with shenanigans because of how they feel about the person. I guess loyalty depends on what a person is willing to tolerate.

In Tasha’s situation, it’s a bit different. She has financial security, living the lavish (and dangerous) life. She also encouraged hubby to stick it out in the drug game, and she has children with him. It’s clear that Tasha did all the things a wife and mother did before James’ affair with Angela. Even after finding out, she still let her guard down and let the love for her man take over by giving up the honeypot.

Tasha had a moment when she looked herself in the mirror and when I saw that I thought, DAMN! As I saw the tears flow, I could only imagine how it would be for me if I was in Tasha’s shoes. You come to the realization that, even in real life, no amount of love, kindness, dedication, loyalty and soul-stirring love-making will keep a man who doesn’t want to be kept.

Long story short, Angela is an Assistant United States Attorney who had James arrested after allegations that he had her ex-boyfriend and co-worker killed. So much for the new pum pum becoming the current pum pum.

Now in season 4, Tasha puts on her cape, takes care of her children, and bosses up while her man is behind bars. If That’s not “Ride or Die” I don’t know WTF it is!

Tasha is doing what she has to do to keep her family together. As a “Ride or Die”sistah, is that smart or is that being foolish?

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Whether we like it or not, reality shows has dominated television for years. Since MTV’s groundbreaking ‘The Real World’, it’s been a snowball effect with other networks, including VH1 and BET, following suit and creating non-scripted television for their targeted audience.

 

The E network is making a killing in ratings with the Kardashians and their show, ‘Keeping Up With The Kardashians’. The show debuted in 2007, and E keeps it going with Spinoffs, including one for Kylie Jenner in the near future. However, I’m convinced that their producers ran out of show ideas years ago and viewers are just bombarded with pointless storylines.

I’m just over them.

I don’t know about you, but The Kardashian Klan has invaded my television long enough. I don’t even tune in to the E network, but I see images of them everywhere. At least we know they’ve hired a bomb-ass publicist!

 

Despite the popularity and the entertaining value of The Housewives and Hip Hop of “whatever city”, they are hard for me to mentally ingest, so I cannot bring myself to watch. The idea of grown women calling eachother out of their names and going for each other’s throats every week doesn’t give me that “Netty & Ceily” feeling. You know what I’m saying?

I’d rather see MORE images of US displaying our magic for the world to witness, and I can think of a few folks who can do that and more. These people deserve a visual platform such as a reality show to showcase their brilliance. These young ladies and men inspire, motivate, and are people young black girls and boys can look up to. They’re talented, their art is of substance, and as a fan of each of them, I am proud of how they represent for people of color.

Beyonce and Solange

If another reality show about sisters is what television need, We TV could add Beyonce and Solange Knowles to the lineup after ‘Braxton Family Values’. Their show would chronicle Bey and SoSo’s life off stage as wives, mothers, and siblings. Of course, Mama Tina would get a few cameos each week. We’ll get an inside look at Bey as a mom of three children, including her brand new twins. We would get to witness how Solange used her creativity to produce ‘A Seat At The Table’ and what inspired her to create such a dope ass album.

Chloe & Halle

Speaking of Beyonce, her proteges Chloe & Halle are the epitome of black girl magic! These sisters were discovered on Youtube by Beyonce and signed them to her record label. Their reality show would chronicle their lives as sisters developing the passion for music. Why they started a YouTube channel, and it will also chronicle their experience on tour with their mentor. Their class, their cuteness, and their sense of style is definitely worth documenting for the world to see!

 

Yara Shahidi

This beautiful actress and future student at Harvard is a young lady to watch for. The ‘Black-ish’ actress not only stuns us with her beauty, but the well-spoken teen exemplifies a person of great intellect. If Michelle Obama personally sends a letter of recommendation to your school of choice, YOU’VE MADE IT! You can clearly see by her interviews/speeches, her passion for human rights and social justices. I’m sure her double majoring in African-American studies and Sociology will solidify her ability to spread much-needed messages to her peers. Our young people will need her. Yara’s reality show would chronicle her transition from the set to the classroom.

 

The Cast Of The New Edition Series

These guys seem like such a close-nit cast, It would be nice to watch a documentary-style reality show of their experience from the auditions to the final day of filming.  The series pulled in over 30 million viewers for BET. I was super impressed at how authentic the series was with capturing the group’s rise to super stardom. Well…when you have the actual group members as executive producers, biopics will be better. Pay attention lifetime!

 

Kendrick Lamar

 

Everything I’ve said in this piece about Kendrick Lamar, still holds true for me.

Kendrick Lamar is not only one of the greatest hip hop artists of our time, he is an artist who hasn’t let his fame get the best of him. He deserves a reality show…something I feel his apparent humbleness won’t allow him to do. However, I feel a reality show chronicling Kendrick as an artist who stays grounded in an industry that is over-saturated with rappers in skinny jeans and blouses NECESSARY. We’d get to witness K-Dot in his natural habitat, his hometown of Compton, California. He’d be taking the trash out for his mom in one scene, and in the next scene he’d be in the studio creating another masterpiece and planning another tour Overseas.

 

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I don’t get it….

When we finally get good quality television that us black folks can be proud of and begged for, we turn around and do some ridiculous shit like NOT support.

We’d rather be glued to the ratchet reality shows that make us look bad.

 

To be honest, I know we watch what we like to watch and I get that. I’m not criticizing anyone who likes ratchet reality because it is entertaining. However, I’m convinced there’s a thin line between entertainment and embellished buffoonery. We criticize Hollywood for not scripting shows that depict people of color in a more positive light, and when they finally do, these shows drop in ratings to women who pull each other’s weaves off over cheating athletes and hip hop artists on national television.

Television is becoming so saturated with ratchet reality, that it’s making me nauseous. Do we really want to spend every day watching what “Tameka” do what she does to “Shay Shay” over her side boo, the basketball star? Do we really want to spend every day watching hip hop dudes verbally and physically slaughter each other over music beats and “bad bitches”?

Thanks to ratchet reality television, we’ve been inundated with imagery that captures the false perception of black culture. I’m convinced that people of color who are television entertainers are only good enough to “entertain” in a way that is selectively acceptable to mainstream Hollywood. We can’t tell a story that is too deep like ‘Underground’, too eye-opening like ‘Sense 8’, too heroic like ‘Pitch’, and ’24 Legacy’ and too light-hearted like ‘The Get Down’. Shows like those aforementioned will not succeed in ratings because apparently, we like folks to have dragged out fights over pure fuckery.

I have to stay mindful of the entertainers who don’t mind getting a check for a good fight scene! As long as we keep watching, they’ll keep getting paid. Get yo’ money, boo!

All I’m really trying to say is give these scripted shows a chance! They really are GOOD QUALITY SHOWS, but we’ll never know because we keep out channels tuned into VH1, which is the network for the ratchiest of ratchet! We’re even losing ratings on video streaming sites like Netflix. How does ‘The Get Down’ get canceled?!? That’s about the origin of Hip Hop, for crying out loud!!!

I’m pleasantly surprised that ‘Blackish’ is still on the air!

Let’s see how long ‘The Carmichael Show’ lasts!

 

These shows gave a good fight!

‘The Get Down’-This show lasted one season on Netflix

‘Pitched’-Fox canceled the drama, Pitch, after just one season. It was about the first woman to play in the major leagues.

 ‘Underground’-Even with a huge following, this critically acclaimed series lasted only 2 seasons, after the WGN’s parent company was purchased by the right-leaning Sinclair Group. The reason? They said they were going to move away from scripted shows.

‘Legacy 24’– Despite the huge reboot starring Straight Outta Compton’s Corey Hawkins, the Fox series failed to deliver in ratings. It lasted one season with Hawkins. The original ’24‘ starred Keifer Sutherland., lasted over 8 seasons.

‘Rosewood’-Morris Chestnut’s police procedural drama was canceled after two seasons on Fox.

‘Doubt’-I have to actually research this one because I never knew about it. Doubt, the CBS drama starring Dulé Hill and Laverne Cox was axed after only two episodes.

‘Sense 8’-Lasted 2 seasons on Netflix

 

 

When Viola Davis accepted her Oscar Sunday night for ‘Best Supporting Actress’  for her role in fences, she actually made history!

Ms. Davis has become a part of what the industry calls the “triple crown club”. She has won an Emmy, a Tony, and an Oscar, making her the first black artist to do so.

Via NME:

By winning the Best Supporting Actress award at last night’s Oscars for her performance in Fences, Viola Davis made history.

The actress added an Academy Award to her Emmy (which she won in 2015 for her performance in TV’s How To Get Away With Murder) and her two Tonys (for King Hedley II in 2001 and Fences in 2010) to complete the so-called “triple crown of acting”.

Davis is the first black woman to achieve this impressive accolade. Though Whoopi Goldberg has also won an Emmy, an Oscar and a Tony (as well as a Grammy – making her an ‘EGOT’ winner), neither her Emmy nor her Tony was won for acting.

Davis becomes the 23rd person ever to complete the ‘triple crown of acting’. Other stars to have achieved the accolade include Helen Mirren, Maggie Smith, Al Pacino, Jeremy Irons and Frances McDormand.

 

 

The groundbreaking sitcom, ‘A Different World’, made everyone want to go to college and  it cultivated the anti-stereotypical perception that all young African-Americans are not trouble-makers. A spin-off of ‘The Cosby Show’, this sitcom kept us aware with their socially conscious storylines and gave us a glimpse of what black college life is like.

Some of their storylines also gave us a glimpse of black love between two of its’ main characters, Dwayne and Whitley. The growth of Dwayne and Whitley’s relationship on the show provided a visual template for viewers, on how to develop a healthy, loving relationship. Here are five lessons Dwayne and Whitley taught us that we can implement in our relationships.

 

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Be friends first– The greatest foundation for developing a healthy, loving relationship is to be friends first. There’s a saying that the greatest relationships started off as friendships, and I couldn’t agree more! Being friends forms a respectful and genuine bond between the two of you and holds you two together like superglue before and after intimacy. When you form a friendship, you already have a certain level of bond, you two already know each other’s ins and outs, and you are comfortable with one another.

 

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Be honest with how you feel – When Dwayne and Whitley had their first REAL kiss, Dwayne was honest in telling Whitley that something was happening between them and wanted to talk about taking their friendship to the next level. Whitley tried to fight her feelings and avoid the much-needed conversation because she was afraid. Although Whitley was trying to deny her feelings for Dwayne, Dwayne took the initiative and put the cards on the table for her.

 

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Don’t play games with the heartThe Summer Dwayne wrote and sent letters to Whitley, Whitley didn’t send any in return. Whitley told Kim and Freddie that keeping a man “yearning” makes him want her more. Dwayne ended his summer be returning to campus from Japan with his girlfriend, Kinu. This is a valuable lesson to all when I say that being self-centered is the gateway to a failed relationship. Don’t do what you wouldn’t want done to you…plain and simple. If you like him/her and he/she is showing you genuine interest, return it.

 

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You’ll never get over your true love– Dwayne’s relationship with Kinu ended when he realized he was still in love with Whitley. Again, Dwayne had to be honest with himself, as well as with Kinu and that was the best decision for them both. It wouldn’t have been fair to Kinu, to Whitley, or even himself, to carry on in a relationship while he had feelings for another woman. Whitley left such an impact on Dwayne, that even her flaws (and she had plenty of those) couldn’t keep Dwayne away from her. This was also true for Whitley, even though she waited until the day of her wedding to call things off with Byron Douglas III

 

Accept each other’s flaws– Both Dwayne and Whitley had their fair share of shortcomings, but that never deterred them from staying in love. Dwayne grew from a geeky freshman with flip-up glasses to a distinguished business man with confidence. Whitley grew from a bougie princess to a more open-minded diva with more realistic expectations. Their personal growth developed by their love for one another, because they’ve accepted each other for who they are. Love brings out the best in people and Whitley and Dwayne’s relationship proved that.

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