It was a magical and surreal moment during the recent Emmy Awards. Award-Winning actress Viola Davis received her Emmy for Best Actress for her role as Annilease Keating in “How To Get Away With Murder”. That moment wasn’t just about her memorable and inspiring speech about women of color in the film/television industry. There was a moment when Taraji Henson, another powerful Award-Winning actress, stood up and applauded in pure joy and with genuine love for her friend whose name was called.
Although Taraji was one of the nominees who lost to Viola, she STILL celebrated her friend’s achievement. What we’ve witnessed that night was TRUE sisterhood at its finest. It makes you wonder who’d clap for you if you win. Most importantly, would you celebrate your sister in the midst of your losses?
Sisterhood is hard to come by these days. Personally, I’m blessed to call two women in my life TRUE sisters in spirit whom I’m confident in. They’d definitely “clap for me”, as I definitely would for them.
As women, that whole competitive mentality we have divides us when it doesn’t have to be that way. We all go through similar life experiences but through different chapters in our lives. When one of us win, we all win. Unfortunately, some women do not believe in that sentiment. You have those who cannot stand to see your strengths because your strengths will reveal their weaknesses. Not all of us understand that you could use your sister’s accomplishments as motivation. Knowing that you and your sister are from the same place spiritually and emotionally should give you some level of optimism about how and where you’d like to grow in your life.
I hope a lot of us take Taraji’s actions that night as a lesson and evaluate the outlook on Sisterhood and the lack of it. Some women never practiced Sisterhood a day in their lives, and that’s why there are a lot of toxic/broken friendships. It makes life easier for us if we take the time to understand what Sisterhood is really about and how we can implement it in our daily lives. Whether we want to believe it or not, we need each other. We have to inspire, motivate and uplift one another because we are a part of a society that tells us that we don’t. We (black women) are generally perceived as bitches/angry women with bad attitudes. I dare myself to bring up the irresponsibility of reality shows and how black women are portrayed. They stay racked up in ratings and we keep watching these women do what they do on national television for a check, but I digress.
Let’s teach our daughters about Sisterhood, so they can grow as respectful and encouraging women to their friends. Let’s teach them that despite their own life’s obstacles, they’ll know that their sister’s accomplishments are proof that they will celebrate theirs one day, too.
In just those short few moments, Taraji’s sincere celebration for Viola showed the whole world that Sisterhood is REAL among black women. Hopefully, that moment will become the catalyst for change in society’s perception of us.