As adults, we can become overwhelmed with the complexities of life; parenthood, relationships, and careers all while  trying to keep a roof over our heads. It’s enough to make you want to crawl back into your mama’s womb for a “do-over”.

When we were younger, we couldn’t wait to become adults. Now that we’re adults, we think back and wonder what the hell we were thinking!

Every now and then, it’s okay to take a break from being an adult. Here are 8 ways to do so without feeling guilty!

A Weekend Getaway– Wouldn’t it be nice to just go away for a few days without thinking about bills, the kids, or your spouse/significant other who’s been getting on your last nerve? Plan a small and affordable trip for yourself or with a couple of your friends that will help take the stress away.

Retail Therapy Without The Family- If you have a few dollars to spare after paying your bills, treat yourself at the mall. Whether it’s that shirt you’ve been eye-balling for a while or just walking through it until you see something that catches your eye, treating yourself WITHOUT your loved ones tagging along provides a certain level of tranquility.

Go to an Amusement Park- Jumping on your favorite rides always bring out the excited kid in you!

Say ‘NO’ more often- Say no to anyone or anything that will inconvenience you. The more you say no, the time needed to do more important things will be revealed to you.

Choose at least one day to do nothing- Pick a day to just…do nothing. No television, no radio, no internet, no phone….everything is turned off! Well…maybe not the radio. Perhaps, listening to your favorite jazz station could do you some good:-) When you spend the day doing absolutely nothing, it rids the stress in your spirit and relaxes your mind.

Work on Your Favorite Hobby– Work on a project that brings you joy. It’ll help take your mind off more serious things.

One Day Without Driving Anywhere- If possible, take a day without driving anywhere. Get a loved-one to run typical errands, while you take a much-needed breather.

Read Blogs on How to Take the Stress Away- Every little bit of advice helps, thus the reason for this piece. Blogs offer many pointers on how to live a stress-free life as an adult. Take advantage of the information that is TOTALLY free all through the internet.

 

 

 

 

 

 

We ALL need help with this thing called life. We all have these ideas floating around in our heads about what we’d like to do, where we’d like to go, who we’d like to be… and so on. Sometimes, these ideas float and other times the crash into each other and then we get stressed out! OMG, have I been there? YESSSSS! I definitely know the feeling.

For years, I’ve struggled with making the ideas in my head a reality. What should I do? Should I take that class? Should I move to another state? I want to move, but how? When? what do I need? Where should I go? Where should I start? Can I even do this? I used to wake up in the morning with these questions and go right to bed at night with them as well. I became overwhelmed at times with so much indecision. I needed help!

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LIFE COACH
A person who counsels and encourages clients on matters having to do with personal challenges or careers.

A Life Coach is what I needed. After asking around and doing some research, I came across a Life Coach right in my area in Brooklyn. This woman was the truth! She had degrees, wrote a book, and even counseled celebrities on a reality show! Oh, heck yeah… I was getting in touch with her!

Guys, can I tell you? After a few sessions with my new Life Coach, things started to become clearer to me. She was able to help clear the fog and I was comfortable with my thoughts and was able to make sense out of them. Honestly, she was a blessing. I was able to put things into perspective and begin the process of working my life out. I’ve since completed my nursing courses, relocated to another state, and I’m still using with skills I learned with her to create new realities. Having access to a Life Coach has definitely been a positive experience and I would advise anyone to look into it. You can Google Life Coaches in your area or you can even check out my Life Coach, Vladimire Calixte.

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As a single mother working as a full-time employee and a business owner/entrepreneur, it can make live very challenging, to say the least. It’s only natural for me and other women in my position to dwell on the negatives of past by not trying to repeat it or focusing too much on the future. Not focusing on the now causes layers of stress. I must admit, I’ve been guilty of this problem for years. I stress about work, finances, relationships, and it all gives me the inability to just…live.

We have to learn to live in the present moment. In doing so, we release all tension and worry. This is the act of practicing everyday mindfulness. Accepting what is happening in our lives now gives us the freedom to live without the stress of what was and what could/should be. We also begin to trust the process of where our lives are headed; Taking us in the direction to where we need to be. Granted, our environment does a good job of reminding us that where we are is not the final destination of our journey, which is why we tend to push ourselves to do better, to be better, and to strive for a better tomorrow. We don’t realize the level of pressure we give ourselves to live up to the standards of others…or even our own. The anxiety to create a better future and the cautiousness of not repeating the past is a battle that is fought daily.

Practicing everyday mindfulness relieves all the stress, worry, and anxiety. Being aware of the daily activities, think positive thoughts, surround yourself with things you love to keep you motivated, and take one step at a time…in your life, in your job, and with your relationships. We cannot predict the future, so it makes no sense in trying to do so. All we can do about the past is learn from it. What was done has been done. Move on, let go, and let God.

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