Girlfriends…Living Single…Martin…Insecure…Waiting To Exhale…Girls Trip

What does all of these have in common?

They all have gone above and beyond to display black women and their friendships in a more positive light. Let’s forget about the ratchet reality shows that make black women look bad, and focus on the good the aforementioned projects have done for women of color.

Like I say here, it makes life easier for us if we take the time to understand what Sisterhood is really about and how we can implement it in our daily lives. Whether we want to believe it or not, we need each other. We have to inspire, motivate and uplift one another because we are a part of a society that tells us that we don’t. We (black women) are generally perceived as bitches/angry women with bad attitudes. Shows like ‘Living Single’ and films like ‘Girls Trip’ diminish the perception that black women cannot get along. I’m thankful for creators of shows mentioned who use their creativity to conceptualize sisterhood on screen the way it should be.

I have something to share…I’ve had a valuable lesson in sisterhood recently that has made me see myself in a different light. It made me evaluate my circle for what it used to be and visualize my friendships for how they are now. Despite the fictional storylines of ‘Girls Trip’, ‘Living Single’ and ‘Insecure’, women like me can use them as templates and apply what we’ve learned to our own friendships. As entertaining as it is to y’all, a toxic episode of ‘Basketball Wives’ could NEVER!!!!

I applaud these films and television shows that depict wonderful friendships among women of color. Not only for my love to see us displayed with warmth, but there weren’t many film and television projects that depicted us in such a way. Let’s get serious here! At one point, we’ve had MANY shows like ‘Friends’ and films like ‘Sex In The City’. Despite the enjoyment those projects gave us, none of the characters looked like us. Additionally, ratchet reality shows with women of color ripping each other’s weaves off, were making a killing in ratings and still are to this day.


Despite the few quarrels and disputes the characters have had, ‘Girlfriends’ was that groundbreaking successful show that depicts women of color who kept the love going for the sake of sisterhood.



Gina and Pam from ‘Martin’ were the epitome of bestfriendism. Despite the animosity between Gina’s man and her bestie, their friendship stayed solid! I guess their on-screen chemistry was solid because they’ve been besties in real life for years.

Despite their different upbringing and differences, Whitley and Kim from ‘A Different World’ displayed a friendship full of support and devotion. Even throughout their many squabbles, their sisterly bond remained intact.


Sisterhood is essential to the lives of women, especially women of color. Let’s be honest…could we really reach our highest potential in womanhood without sisterhood? Sisterhood, I believe, is the foundation of our support system. film and television shows that depict black women friendships in a more positive light remind us of that. Those projects reflect what real life friendships among black women supposed to look like.

I’m grateful for the reminder

It takes a person with lots of courage to admit they were wrong and apologizes. I assume Actress Countess Vaughn wants to go into 2016 with a clean slate and genuine friendships, as she publicly apologizes to former co-star Brandy via Instagram.

The ladies had a falling out during the Moesha days. Brandy even spoke about it during that time.

I think she’s very funny, very talented,” Brandy says. “I just feel like she wants to be in the position I’m in. People tell her, ‘You’re the reason why the show’s successful.’ And she’s told me that before. And she’s called me a b***h-to my face. She said, ‘I’m the reason why the show is successful, bitch.’ In front of a lot of people. And I looked at her like, Wow.

As people grow in age, it’s a blessing when they grow in maturity and spiritually, as well. Countess has shown tremendous courage to not only step up to the plate, but she has shown all of social media that BLACK WOMEN are not always mean, bitter, angry, etc. towards one another.

Sisterhood….that’s what it’s all about.

Read Countess’s message to Brandy below



Brandy responded


This inspires me to make amends with a couple of folks in my life.

Countess Vaughn reminds us that life is too short to hold grudges, not speak, not love, and/or not make peace.

I can dig it

I was trolling my Facebook’s timeline when I came across this very touching video. Hit play below and read my thoughts afterward.

Essence Atkins got down on her knees and washed my friend Allison Pecola Person’s feet today which I believe is a wonderful way to exude a simple act of kindness. #WWJD #TYL

Posted by Michael Adeyeye on Friday, November 13, 2015



I had yet to know the story behind why Essence chose to do this kind gesture, but I was immediately in tears before the end of the video.

Actress Essence Atkins solidified the true meaning behind the term Sisterhood.

During her promotion in Atlanta this past weekend for her stage play Things Your Man Won’t Do, Essence along with her castmates went into a whole playful game of “what your man won’t do”  at their Meet & Greet, until Essence chose a moment to express how important it is for women to love one another. That’s when Essence chose to get down on her knees to wash the feet of a stranger by the name of Allison Pecola Person, a promotions coordinator at Radio One. She lovingly showed her and the rest that observed that special moment what Jesus would do.

Essence displayed exceedingly high levels of genuine sisterhood and exemplifies a woman who is not fearful to show another woman love and respect.

We need more of that.

In case you’re not clear about the message behind Essence and Allison’s touching moment, Read Allison’s Facebook message below


UPDATE: November 16th, 2015

To add to her message from yesterday, Allison took the time to explain once again why Essence did what she did. Take a look at her video below. The person who filmed the video by the name of Michael Adeyeye also shared how much that moment affected him.


For those of you who wondered “how in the heck did Essence Atkins just start washing some random girl’s feet…?” Well, here’s your answer!

Hope it blesses you as much as it blessed me! I hope that once you’re done watching it, you’re encouraged to go and wash the feet of your neighbor.

Be blessed,
Allison Pecola Person


Posted by Allison Pecola Person on Monday, November 16, 2015

It was a magical and surreal moment during the recent Emmy Awards. Award-Winning actress Viola Davis received her Emmy for Best Actress for her role as Annilease Keating in “How To Get Away With Murder”. That moment wasn’t just about her memorable and inspiring speech about women of color in the film/television industry. There was a  moment when Taraji Henson, another powerful Award-Winning actress, stood up and applauded in pure joy and with genuine love for her friend whose name was called.



Although Taraji was one of the nominees who lost to Viola, she STILL celebrated her friend’s achievement. What we’ve witnessed that night was TRUE sisterhood at its finest. It makes you wonder who’d clap for you if you win. Most importantly, would you celebrate your sister in the midst of your losses?

Sisterhood is hard to come by these days. Personally, I’m blessed to call two women in my life TRUE sisters in spirit whom I’m confident in. They’d definitely “clap for me”, as I definitely would for them.

As women, that whole competitive mentality we have divides us when it doesn’t have to be that way. We all go through similar life experiences but through different chapters in our lives. When one of us win, we all win. Unfortunately, some women do not believe in that sentiment. You have those who cannot stand to see your strengths because your strengths will reveal their weaknesses. Not all of us understand that you could use your sister’s accomplishments as motivation. Knowing that you and your sister are from the same place spiritually and emotionally should give you some level of optimism about how and where you’d like to grow in your life.

I hope a lot of us take Taraji’s actions that night as a lesson and evaluate the outlook on Sisterhood and the lack of it. Some women never practiced Sisterhood a day in their lives, and that’s why there are a lot of toxic/broken friendships. It makes life easier for us if we take the time to understand what Sisterhood is really about and how we can implement it in our daily lives. Whether we want to believe it or not, we need each other. We have to inspire, motivate and uplift one another because we are a part of a society that tells us that we don’t. We (black women) are generally perceived as bitches/angry women with bad attitudes. I dare myself to bring up the irresponsibility of reality shows and how black women are portrayed. They stay racked up in ratings and we keep watching these women do what they do on national television for a check, but I digress.

Let’s teach our daughters about Sisterhood, so they can grow as respectful and encouraging women to their friends. Let’s teach them that despite their own life’s obstacles, they’ll know that their sister’s accomplishments are proof that they will celebrate theirs one day, too.

In just those short few moments, Taraji’s sincere celebration for Viola showed the whole world that Sisterhood is REAL among black women. Hopefully, that moment will become the catalyst for change in society’s perception of us.



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