We all know at least two people who will tell you they don’t mind being single even if they are for the rest of their lives. Not only are they lying to you, but they are in complete denial and bullshittin’ themselves.

Everyone wants love…everyone needs love….everyone wants to eventually get caught up & do that forever happily ever after relationship, wedding vows and all. There’s no logical reason for anyone wanting to stay single. I can understand wanting to be single for the moment.

Maybe you’ve just ended a relationship and need time to heal

I get that…

but those artificial reasons are wack.

I like the freedom to do anything I want to do.

I like my options

I don’t have time to be in a relationship.

Those excuses are all masks to cover up how you really feel. You don’t want to let your guard down and let love in, so you use the “I’m Good” mentality as a defense mechanism. There’s always some underlying fear of commitment for various reasons, but for the most part..you’re scared. You want to be in a relationship…you just don’t want to get hurt. If men and women value relationships like they should, they’d understand that freedom as well as space are essential ingredients for a healthy loving relationship. Even a couple deeply in love doesn’t want to be in each other’s face all the time. That’s relationship killer potential! Giving each other some space and freedom between cuddling and sucking face is guaranteed to keep the relationship spicy.

Men and women deal with this “I’m good” mentality differently. Women become dishonest with themselves the moment their guy proves he’s not ready for a commitment. For example, if a guy actually tells you that he won’t get mad if you see other guys, he’s telling you that he’s going to see other women. However, you my luv, will act like what he told you didn’t bother you (or practice selective hearing). You pretend “you’re good” out of fear of getting rejected, so you play along. Men see right through that and will use it to their full advantage. Men, however, will keep their options open with insecure women who don’t know any better. The ones who will use their vagina as bait for months to hold on to men who they’re uncertain loves them. He’ll continue to use them until the right one puts her foot down and demands what she wants. He’ll use that “I’m good” excuse until SHE comes along.

Not having time to be in a relationship is complete bullshit. If you can make time getting to know someone, have sex, and do relationship-type things to keep their attention, then you have time to be in a relationship.

It’s all about being honest with yourself. Your dude or lady will probably respect you more if you are honest about wanting a relationship from the beginning. Get rid of the fear of getting used or hurt. Everybody has at some point in their lives. It’s all about who you feel is worth the sacrifice of your heart and trusting the process.

Give it a chance. You may actually become pleasantly surprised at the outcome 🙂

For those who don’t understand the term “friends with benefits”, it’s basically an agreement from both individuals to have a sexual relationship without any emotional ties or commitment; sex with no strings attached. While it may make you and your partner feel like liberating sexual beasts, there are consequences to consider. Not only are there lines being crossed, but the words “friend” went out the window, the moment the penis entered the vagina. That feeling of being a liberating sexual beast won’t last.

If you’re a FWB, have you ever considered the fact that you’re not allowed to develop feelings? No relationship…no emotions…just SEX! That’s the three golden rules that don’t apply to everyone because it’s fuckin impossible! FWB relationships give you a sense of connection and significance, but it also gives a false sense of “getting your needs met”. Sure, you’re getting sex, but you’re using sex to hide true feelings that you’re scared to reveal for whatever reason and that leads to frustration, making that connection between you two short-lived. The more you try to deny your feelings, the more frustrating you become and as a result, you’re hurt.

I want to know how FWB draw the line between sharing and not being vulnerable when sex is one of the most vulnerable acts of mankind! Will there be times after having sex for the first time where you’ll feel like doing “bestie” things with no sex?  Do you both expect to end up in bed every time y’all  hang out? How does it all work?

One thing’s for sure…someone is bound to fall for the other and it’s usually the woman. Why?…men can naturally have sex without emotions, so it’s easy breezy for them.

This leads me to a few questions…

Does the woman expect that sex will deepen the bond between her and her “friend”? Did she always have feelings for him and never expressed it? It’s possible! What happens when you discover your partner gets into a relationship with someone else? Don’t think it’ll be easy to turn off your feelings like a light switch. Us women carry what you call Oxytocin, a chemical reaction that ignites after sex. We feel happy, relaxed, and feel a deeper connection to our partner. So to consciously decide that you will not develop emotions for your FWB will confuse the hell out of you, and it could also damage your self-esteem.

 

Getting involved in a FWB type of relationship is risky. You’ll have to know what to expect and what not to expect. One of the consequences to consider is the possibility of you losing your friend. No one expects that to happen because the focus is to get the needs met. You chose each other as a FWB because you provide comfort for each other. Because you guys are friends, you know each other’s wants and needs. Even the topics you both discuss are candid, because you both confide in each other. They say people in  good relationships starts off as friends.

Let that marinate

 

Honestly, the effort you put into trying to justify being a Friend with Benefits, you could apply that same effort into building a genuine and committed relationship.

Why don’t you guys just be committed?

Better yet….

Does your friend partner think you’re worth a committed relationship?

Do YOU think you’re worth it?

I think I can vouch for all women reading this when I say when we get something so good, we lose the good sense that we have when we try to hold on to it! Especially when it comes to penis.

I’m not just talking about that “good for the moment”, “can do without”, mediocre type of penis. The kind of penis I’m describing is the kind that unravels all five of your senses during intercourse. The kind of penis I’m talking about makes us do or say things we wouldn’t normally do. The kind of penis I’m talking about is the kind that our bodies yearn for…like an addict taking one last good hit before detox. Unfortunately, our bodies are sometimes responsible for our toxic behavior, because we choose to satisfy our physical needs before our emotional needs. When that penis is attached to a toxic guy, the emotional damages we cause ourselves as women can have long-lasting effects.

Our bodies is in a constant battle with our minds. We know good and gotdamn well we need to leave that toxic guy alone, but we can’t. We can’t because we choose not to.

Your body reminds you with the question…who’s going to make love to you the way that he does?

Your mind replies with….but you deserve to be treated so much better.

Your body responds with….He makes me feel better when I’m with him. He makes me feel whole.

Your mind replies with….but you don’t need a man to make you feel whole or complete.

 

We don’t often recognize our subconscious fear of being single. As a result, we use the back-breaking sex as the reason for holding onto an unhealthy relationship. A woman with this kind of struggle between her body and her mind is what we like to call “dickmitized”.

Babygirl is hypnotized by the dick and she doesn’t want to lose it for all the wrong reasons. Most importantly, she doesn’t want to lose that “good good” to another woman. It’s that inevitable circumstance that leaves a woman in emotional shambles.

Why?

She’s lost herself.

In her gullible mind, a man who fucks her that good MUST be in love with her.

She’s convinced herself that she could help him change his messy ways.

She’s devaluing her worth every time he enters her, knowing he’s gonna be messy the next day.

 

One good stroke will make an intelligent woman dumb down for love. She’s oblivious to the fact that sex is giving her a false sense of security and a false sense of belonging.

 

Truth be told…sex should never be the reason why a woman would accept disrespectful behavior from a man who is supposed to love her. Besides, a man won’t change his messy ways if he thinks he’s being clean. One thing’s for certain, two things for sure…he knows he’s clever. Clever enough to keep screwing your insides out during “make up” sex, because he knows you aren’t going anywhere.

The sad part about all of this is a lot of us use love as an excuse.

Love has nothing to do with your apparent dickmitization. Your actions scream WEAK. Dude smells your weakness miles away and that’s why he does what he do.

 

I need my ladies who are being dickmitized to stop dumbing themselves down for men who obviously low-key care about you. Stop equating sex with love and realize that a grown man shouldn’t have to be reminded daily to act right. We let our bodies control us so much,  that we don’t realize how much we’re willing to tolerate because we don’t want to be alone.

Please understand that dude is not the only fish in the sea.

Please understand that the more special you think you are, the more basic you become.

Get off the dick, find your self-esteem, and wait on the true love that you deserve.

 

 

 

In a video for the Viceland show “Party Legends”, former Chicago Bulls player, Dennis Rodman, share graphic memories about breaking his penis on three different occasions! Watch this hilarious video below!

WARNING: EXPLICIT DETAILS

Why dude even thought running full speed ahead into some vag that way was a good idea is beyond baffling! All three of those incidents are good ideas if he’s on drugs or just drunk A F!!!!

D Rod is crazy…I’ve been convinced.

We watch these Olympic athletes take on their opportunities of a lifetime every four years, as they compete in their respective sport. They get there by training vigorously and with no distractions. When I say distractions, I really mean the opposite sex.

Now that they’ve made it to the biggest sporting competition in all the world, they can finally breathe a sigh of relief…at least during the opening ceremony. Every four years, elite athletes from each country come together for this historic event. I mean GOOD-LOOKING athletes with bodies of GAWDS and nothing but time between competing. What better way to release sport-involved stress than with sex?

According to Bustle, this year’s Olympics in Rio, 450,000 condoms are being given out. Yep, 450,000. That breaks down to 42 condoms per athlete. However, that 450,000 is only part of the nine million condoms being distributed throughout Rio during the Olympics, courtesy of the Brazilian government. “This is considered sufficient to encourage athletes to practice safe sex while in Brazil for the Olympic Games,” the International Olympic Committee (IOC) told the Folha de São Paulo newspaper.

The Olympic Village is the athletes’ home while the competitions take place. We are talking about a place that resembles that of a college dorm. Can you even imagine the number of hot, single, athletes bumping into each other (no pun intended), in a building that consists of any extracurricular activity you could think of, including a nightclub???

It’s been referred to as “just a magical, fairy-tale place, like Alice in Wonderland, where everything is possible,” Carrie Sheinberg, an alpine skier at the 1994 Winter Games who has since reported for other Olympic Games, told ESPN. “You could win a gold medal and you can sleep with a really hot guy.”

The Olympic Village has cafés, TV lounges, a 24-hour McDonald’s that gives out thousands of chicken nuggets per day in the dining hall (which happens to be the length of two football fields), nightclubs (some of which give out free drinks), etc. And the aforementioned condoms, of course.

Also, according to Bustle, condom distribution has risen every four years!

Seoul, 1988: 8,500 condoms
Barcelona, 1992: 90,000
Atlanta, 1996: 15,000
Sydney, 2000: 70,000 (but halfway through, more were needed, so 20,000 were brought in)
Athens, 2004: 130,000

London, 2012:- 150,000

 

Let’s be mindful of the age we’re living in; the age where more open-minded free-spirited folks no longer care to wait until marriage to have sex. But we also have to be safe and careful! Big ups to the Olympic Committee for even coming up with the idea for condom distributions.

I guess you can say it’s normal for a young, good-looking athletes to use sex as a way to get rid of the pressures to compete in their respective sport on worldly television. It’s not only about getting rid of the pressures. I can imagine it’s easy to become tempted when you’re surrounded by other athletes who look like models and looking to have a good time within the village walls. Some athletes reportedly have curfews, but that doesn’t stop them from “exploring”. The 450,000 PLUS condom distribution kinda proves that!

It’s a common problem, particularly for the women, to over-emphasize the chemistry she has with a man based off their sexual relationship. It’s unfortunate that we don’t often recognize what we’re doing until we’ve already given the goodies. There are a few important things to consider when you’re sexually involved with someone. A few things that we tend to overlook.

Number 1: If the person you’re sexin’ is someone you can’t or won’t call during an emergency, you have no business having sex with this person.

Number 2: If you two cannot hold a decent conversation outside the bedroom, you have no business having sex with this person.

Number 3: If quality time with this person is limited and all you do is screw during that limited amount of time, then you have no business having sex with that person.

Number 4: If the only time you both get along is during sexual intercourse, then you have no business having sex with this person.

Let’s face it!

The only thing you two have in common is SEX. Nothing more…nothing less. What some of you fail to realize is that you mistake sex, especially good sex, for a “strong connection” or “chemistry”. Come on, ladies! You’re smart enough to distinguish the difference between sex and love. How great the sex is shouldn’t equate to how strong the connection is and it certainly doesn’t equate to love.

The REAL question is…does he even consider you a friend?

For most women, sex creates an emotional bond. By the time a man initially penetrates the woman, she will instantly feel some sort of connection. The truth is…there’s no connection….It’s just sex. If you cannot stimulate each other mentally, find balance with each other, or basically cannot add any kind of value to each other’s lives, then consider yourselves as “fuck buddies”.

As a person who crave more, you have to know that it takes more than what you can do between the sheets. It starts with how you see yourself. If you keep giving him pu$$y with nothing else to offer, then that’s exactly what he’ll see you as…pu$$y.

You’re more than that. Dig deep within yourself and find your true value. You have so much more to offer, but you’ll never know what that is if you’re giving more than what you have.