This statement has been debatable since Facebook’s debut in 2004. While I do think your business is your business, I think that statement is false and here are my reasons why.

There’s a thin line between being private and being secret. While I understand the need for privacy, it’s difficult for me to believe that NO sign of a relationship on Facebook means that it’s healthy. I agree…but to a point. If your relationship is healthy then showing signs of it on Facebook wouldn’t even be an issue.


Because both individuals would be faithful and secure, so showing signs on Facebook or any social media site would never be a problem for either of them.

If you feel like you have to be completely discreet about your relationship, then there’s a reason behind that and that has nothing to do with being private. If you’ve been dating a person for more than six months, talks about taking your relationship to the next level have already happened (or at least there should have been). I’m pretty sure there was some agreement made at one point by one convincing the other to practice discretion. At that point, you both were unaware that practicing discretion with the relationship will eventually cause more stress in the relationship than helping it.

The idea for anyone to be discreet to the point where they don’t want to show any signs of it on social media is the solution for someone leaving room for themselves to perpetuate their single status for others. Most women will fall with the discretion logic because they don’t want to debate something for fear of showing their insecurities. The unfortunate part about that is that at some point, babygirl will be battling with her self-control.

It could get tempting to post your mate on Facebook, but if your mate hasn’t done it, then you are forced to “hold out”, and that could get frustrating for you.

When it all comes down to it, Facebook or ANY of the social media platforms is never the cause of relationship failures. Those who seek discretion will brainwash their mates with that logic. If anything, it just brings to light what someone has been doing all along.