Remember the days when we couldn’t wait to turn on the radio?
The music that played across the airwaves was music that made us smile and reminisce…music that snatched our souls and made us yearn for more…music that made you want to fall in love and stay in it….music that just made you feel good!
Today, most of us barely listen to the radio for a few reasons.
Music today has lost so much substance, meaning, value and the lyrics are so degrading and misogynistic, you can’t help but wonder if the music actually reflects the dynamic between men and women, which has changed for the worst. It has gotten so bad over the years that we keep the radio off so that our kids doesn’t become exposed to such negativity.
Let’s go back to the days when music meant something.
There were love songs like “On Bended Knee” by BoyzIIMen, “With You” by Tony Terry, “Soon as I Get Home” by Babyface, “Can We Talk” by Tevin Campbell, “Yearning For Your Love” by The Gap Band, “P.Y.T” by Michael Jackson, “Nothing Compares to You” by Prince, “A Long Walk” by Jill Scott, “Brown Sugar” by D’Angelo, “I Need Love” by LL Cool J, “Pretty Brown Eyes” by Mint Condition, and ANYTHING by Luther Vandross.
There were conscious, supportive, and happy songs like “Lost Ones” by Lauren Hill, “Be Happy” by Bobby McFerrin, and “Brotha” by Angie Stone”.
You can’t even change the dial on the radio without hearing demeaning lyrics, which in many cases, us women dance to at the club, as long as the beat is right!
It used to be rap artists that were the primary musicians with misogynistic lyrics. Unfortunately, lyrics of such nature has carried over into the R&B scene. Titles like “These Hoes ain’t Loyal”, and R&B songs with the word “bitch” thrown in a few times, A lot of these R&B songs are no longer pleasant to our ears or our hearts.
We, as fans, want to support these artists because they are talented. But, how can we spend money on a project that teaches their fans, particularly the young and impressionable ones, that treating women with misogynistic behavior is okay?
As a fan of music and an observer, I am convinced that the music of today has shown us the true dynamic between men and women in these modern times. I’m convinced the true dynamic between women and men is partly the reason dating has become hard to do.
But that’s a whole new blog post
The bottom line is I don’t want to turn on the radio and hear “you stupid ass bitch, I ain’t fuckin’ with you!”, whether it’s censored or not. That particular song is not “R&B”, but that’s not the point, for those who wants to point that out.
I’ll either keep it on one station I’m satisfied with or listen to my customary playlist.
I see Ne-Yo, and Pharrell, and John Legend, and Jill Scott, and Kem, and Tyrese, and Ledisi, and Fantasia, and Musiq Soulchild, and BJ The Chicago Kid, and Kenny Lattimore, and a few other artists who are keeping R&B alive, safe, pleasant, and worth spending money on to add to our music collection.
Meanwhile, we search the internet for other talented and unknown artists who are missed under the radar, because the over-saturation of pop and unpleasant R&B has taken over the airwaves.
I understand that times change with each generation.
I understand that the generations under mine like the music they’ve grown accustomed to listening to.
However, that doesn’t change the fact that what they listen to lacks substance.