If you’re a fan of the hit crime drama on Starz, ‘Power’, then you know what I’m talking about. If you don’t understand what I’m saying, let me break it down for you.

During each season, Tasha St. Patrick (played by the gorgeous Naturi Naughton) displays signs of the typical “ride or die” syndrome. As a mother and a wife of a drug dealing-club owner, she is a strong believer in her husband’s rise in the drug empire. That alone, proves that Tasha is nowhere near innocent. She actually encouraged James to stay in the drug biz when he wanted to get out.

 

However, you can’t help but admire Tasha for the shit she’s been through with James, yet, she stays be his side. When James run into an old girlfriend, Angela Valdez, who he later starts an affair with, Tasha’s world starts to crumble. Tasha had to put away that hard exterior and become vulnerable to her husband. It led to a much-needed discussion about how things went wrong in their marriage.

We all saw what went wrong.

When Angela walked into that club, all James saw was old pum pum, replacing current pum pum, and making it new pum pum. (colloquialism for vagina, if you’re wondering)

 

I thought Tasha would just leave the marriage, but my girl had other plans!  She uses their driver, Shawn, to gain  information by flirting with him. The flirting turns into furtive sex with Shawn as a way of getting back at James after finding out he and Angela’s affair.

Despite Tasha’s revenge sex, she still loves James. She loves James so much, she looked past the possibility that James might’ve had something to do with Shawn’s sudden death. (The murderer was actually Shawn’s own father, but let’s save that for another blog post)

Although Tasha’s storyline is glorified for our entertainment, Tasha, as a woman, is relatable…not unrealistic. Her anything-goes personality and sometimes manipulative behavior intrigues us. We put ourselves in Tasha’s shoes, wondering if her actions would be our actions. Would we leave or go after the discovery of our significant other smashin’ another woman? It puts things into perspective for a lot of us, especially those of us who’d feel we’d never develop that “Ride or Die” mentality.

As I’ve said in my piece here, I’m not married, but I expect the married folks to go by the whole ‘Ride or Die’ phenomena, because that’s how you keep a marriage strong. I guess I’m old-fashioned because I don’t think ‘Ride or Die’ should apply to folks in basic (sexual) relationships. Too many folks confuse loyalty with being taken advantage of and as a result, they ‘stick around’, because they feel obligated after putting so much energy into establishing the relationship. They also put up with shenanigans because of how they feel about the person. I guess loyalty depends on what a person is willing to tolerate.

In Tasha’s situation, it’s a bit different. She has financial security, living the lavish (and dangerous) life. She also encouraged hubby to stick it out in the drug game, and she has children with him. It’s clear that Tasha did all the things a wife and mother did before James’ affair with Angela. Even after finding out, she still let her guard down and let the love for her man take over by giving up the honeypot.

Tasha had a moment when she looked herself in the mirror and when I saw that I thought, DAMN! As I saw the tears flow, I could only imagine how it would be for me if I was in Tasha’s shoes. You come to the realization that, even in real life, no amount of love, kindness, dedication, loyalty and soul-stirring love-making will keep a man who doesn’t want to be kept.

Long story short, Angela is an Assistant United States Attorney who had James arrested after allegations that he had her ex-boyfriend and co-worker killed. So much for the new pum pum becoming the current pum pum.

Now in season 4, Tasha puts on her cape, takes care of her children, and bosses up while her man is behind bars. If That’s not “Ride or Die” I don’t know WTF it is!

Tasha is doing what she has to do to keep her family together. As a “Ride or Die”sistah, is that smart or is that being foolish?