I don’t get it….

When we finally get good quality television that us black folks can be proud of and begged for, we turn around and do some ridiculous shit like NOT support.

We’d rather be glued to the ratchet reality shows that make us look bad.

 

To be honest, I know we watch what we like to watch and I get that. I’m not criticizing anyone who likes ratchet reality because it is entertaining. However, I’m convinced there’s a thin line between entertainment and embellished buffoonery. We criticize Hollywood for not scripting shows that depict people of color in a more positive light, and when they finally do, these shows drop in ratings to women who pull each other’s weaves off over cheating athletes and hip hop artists on national television.

Television is becoming so saturated with ratchet reality, that it’s making me nauseous. Do we really want to spend every day watching what “Tameka” do what she does to “Shay Shay” over her side boo, the basketball star? Do we really want to spend every day watching hip hop dudes verbally and physically slaughter each other over music beats and “bad bitches”?

Thanks to ratchet reality television, we’ve been inundated with imagery that captures the false perception of black culture. I’m convinced that people of color who are television entertainers are only good enough to “entertain” in a way that is selectively acceptable to mainstream Hollywood. We can’t tell a story that is too deep like ‘Underground’, too eye-opening like ‘Sense 8’, too heroic like ‘Pitch’, and ’24 Legacy’ and too light-hearted like ‘The Get Down’. Shows like those aforementioned will not succeed in ratings because apparently, we like folks to have dragged out fights over pure fuckery.

I have to stay mindful of the entertainers who don’t mind getting a check for a good fight scene! As long as we keep watching, they’ll keep getting paid. Get yo’ money, boo!

All I’m really trying to say is give these scripted shows a chance! They really are GOOD QUALITY SHOWS, but we’ll never know because we keep out channels tuned into VH1, which is the network for the ratchiest of ratchet! We’re even losing ratings on video streaming sites like Netflix. How does ‘The Get Down’ get canceled?!? That’s about the origin of Hip Hop, for crying out loud!!!

I’m pleasantly surprised that ‘Blackish’ is still on the air!

Let’s see how long ‘The Carmichael Show’ lasts!

 

These shows gave a good fight!

‘The Get Down’-This show lasted one season on Netflix

‘Pitched’-Fox canceled the drama, Pitch, after just one season. It was about the first woman to play in the major leagues.

 ‘Underground’-Even with a huge following, this critically acclaimed series lasted only 2 seasons, after the WGN’s parent company was purchased by the right-leaning Sinclair Group. The reason? They said they were going to move away from scripted shows.

‘Legacy 24’– Despite the huge reboot starring Straight Outta Compton’s Corey Hawkins, the Fox series failed to deliver in ratings. It lasted one season with Hawkins. The original ’24‘ starred Keifer Sutherland., lasted over 8 seasons.

‘Rosewood’-Morris Chestnut’s police procedural drama was canceled after two seasons on Fox.

‘Doubt’-I have to actually research this one because I never knew about it. Doubt, the CBS drama starring Dulé Hill and Laverne Cox was axed after only two episodes.

‘Sense 8’-Lasted 2 seasons on Netflix

 

 

This is what happens when an African-American targeted brand creates a new direction to gain a broader range of consumers and fails epically…

 

Shea Moisture, a reputable and one of the top-notch hair/skin care line for women of color, are under fire for their new ads that display mostly “melanin-challenged” women…basically, women who don’t look like most of their customer base. According to those who claim they’ve supported the SM brand for years, their new marketing strategy is a slap in the face to those who obviously cannot culturally or personally relate to the women featured in the ads. The brand receives major backlash on social media and loss of fans, as a result.

Watch the ads below before they get snatched!

Of course, the brand issues an apology.

 

 

Wow, okay – so guys, listen, we really f-ed this one up. Please know that our intention was not – and would never be – to disrespect our community, and as such, we are pulling this piece immediately because it does not represent what we intended to communicate. You guys know that we have always stood for inclusion in beauty and have always fought for our community and given them credit for not just building our business but for shifting the beauty landscape. So, the feedback we are seeing here brings to light a very important point. While this campaign included several different videos showing different ethnicities and hair types to demonstrate the breadth and depth of each individual’s hair journey, we must absolutely ensure moving forward that our community is well-represented in each one so that the women who have led this movement never feel that their hair journey is minimized in any way. We are keenly aware of the journey that WOC face – and our work will continue to serve as the inspiration for work like the Perception Institute’s Good Hair Study/Implicit Association Test that suggests that a majority of people, regardless of race and gender, hold some bias towards women of color based on their textured or natural hair. So, you’re right. We are different – and we should know better.

Thank you all, as always, for the honest and candid feedback. We hear you. We’re listening. We appreciate you. We count on you. And we’re always here for you. Thank you, #SheaFam, for being there for us, even when we make mistakes. Here’s to growing and building together…

What are your thoughts?

You attend a concert for your favorite artist….

The last thing you expect is to get punched by the artist you admire….

Instead of maintaining your dignity…you make peace with a twerk.

Watch how that goes down before I share my thought piece.

When I watched the footage obtained by TMZ, so many thoughts gathered.

I’ve also heard mixed reaction, including those who say that it was the woman’s fault for what happened. Yes…she could have had a weapon of some sort and Jackson had a right to keep himself unharmed…yada yada yada.

Let’s be clear….we all know she’s wrong for trying to pull the man off stage. Although Jackson appeared to have thrown the punch to free himself from her grasp, he was still wrong for it. If you have 10 bodyguards on stage protecting you, why the hell do you feel comfortable enough to use your fist on a woman half your size?

Anyway….

This piece isn’t about Jackson throwing the punch….
this piece isn’t even about the woman pulling him off stage which she shouldn’t have done…

What has my blood boiling is the fact that this woman publicly shamed herself, influenced by her admiration for this artist. As soon as Jackson threw that punch, he smelt a lawsuit and that’s why he quickly called her on stage.

I can hear the inside convo….

50: “Lemme see what you workin’ wit’, Shawty…do your thing.”
fan: “‘Aight…”

This is what happens when celebrity worship and the objectification of women collides.

It was obvious that the woman didn’t care that she was just jabbed with a grown man fist to the chest…a place where her beating heart resides!

Dude used her admiration for him with requesting a twerk, and she didn’t mind at all. Sore chest and all, homegirl twerked like cash  raining on her…because 50 Cent, her boo….let her.

There’s a problem when we allow ourselves to be degraded….especially in public for the country to see. We’re spreading the message that it’s okay, or even normal, to accept misogyny into our space.

That incident was a clear example of the admirer being intimidated by a person with fame and mental power so much that she didn’t want to react other than twerking for her favorite rapper.

There ain’t that much admiration in the world.

I wonder what went through her mind when she felt that blow…
I wonder how she REALLY felt when she was requested on stage…

Something tells me that Jackson succeeded in avoiding a lawsuit. Homegirl was on that stage going through a moment of male privilege, celebrity worship, and sexual objectification. Twerking for a man after he punches you in the chest kinda solidifies that notion, and sadly, she probably didn’t think it was a big deal.

I’m convinced she went home that night and bragged how she got to be on stage with her boo.

Let’s talk about this Pepsi ad Ft. Kendall Jenner (now pulled after negative reaction) because the folks who conceptualized this tone-death visual fuckery had no idea it would make people upset…and rightfully so.

Before I go in, press play below

 

So, here we have a Kardashian who “brings people together” by ending a protest with a beverage……..

This has to be the lowest of the low for any marketing team trying to sell a product. The Pepsi brand should be ashamed for mocking the movement and using that girl to do it. Sooo, no one in the marketing department mentioned that the ad was a bad idea???

I don’t blame Kendall. She obviously saw dollar signs when she signed that contract and didn’t think twice about how the ad would affect people. You can’t expect someone in their early twenties and haven’t experienced much life to understand.

Pepsi basically undermined the works and dedication of Martin Luther King Jr., Rosa Parks, and the seriousness of the Civil Rights Movement and Black Lives Matter in under two minutes. We’ve heard the term, “don’t shoot the messenger.” Well, poor Kendall was the messenger who was caught in the crossfire.

 

Now, let’s talk about how Bernice King, daughter of Martin, GATHERED Pepsi with just one tweet….

 

 

Nothing about this ad was cute and for Pepsi to trivialize the protests of police brutality, killings, and racism for a product sale shows how disingenuous the brand truly is of the movement.

Kendrick Lamar recently released new music that we’ve been anticipating. But, like most of Kendrick’s material, his new single, “Humble”, comes with some controversy and THIS TIME, I’m really not sure why.

Read the lyrics below from the 2nd verse

“I’m so fucking sick and tired of the Photoshop/Show me something natural like afro on Richard Pryor/Show me something natural like ass with some stretch marks.”

 

Before I share my discombobulation over the outrage of some of the women, hit play below to the visual to K-dot’s “Humble”.

 

I’ve played this over and over again to feel the outrage that’s been sparked by some of my sistahs and to be honest…I’m still perplexed. In fact, the more I listen, the more I dig it.

I’ve been following the outrage of some of the women on social media…particularly Twitter and I’ve read some valid points about misogyny in Hip Hop. That’s a general observation I’ve had for years as a hip hop fan. However, I don’t see the need to knock the brotha for simply expressing in his art that he doesn’t mind flaws and that’s EXACTLY what he’s doing.

In my humble opinion, I feel like some of you folks need to project your anger over the objectification of black women at those who truly deserve it. How about this beauty expert? –>read here

I’ve been reading and hearing that Kendrick is “problematic” and “expressed his own sexual desires”. I’ve also read and heard that the word “bitch” was used numerous times in the video which also sends the wrong message.

One…you have to understand hip hop and have listened to it long enough to know that his usage of the B word was not intended for his female listeners. In fact, if you’ve been following Kendrick since “Control”, you’d realize “Humble” is a diss track.

Two…This artist expressed love for natural beauty, yet all some of you hear are a certain group of women being empowered while another group is being “shamed”.

Nowhere in this single is this artist expressing disdain for any group of women. None of his lyrics display disrespect to those who have had plastic surgery. I fail to hear where he’s said anything negative towards women who wears weaves and/or has had plastic surgery through this single. Saying he wants to see a natural ass with stretch marks is not him expressing that we SHOULD be one way or another.  I take that as an expression of overlooking flaws and seeing beauty that’s natural….and natural, in itself, is beauty.

The man even expressed he’s sick and tired of Photoshop images, but y’all wanna be mad about that, too! If he would have said we should post Photoshopped images and images with layers of filters to alter our natural appearance, then y’all would really have something to be outraged about!

Please stop

If you’re a fan of Kendrick Lamar, then you’d know he tells a story and expresses his thoughts and feelings through his art.  If you’ve listened to two of his biggest albums, then you’ve listened to his struggles with negative thoughts, feelings on black on black crime, self-love, love of black people and being black. With his art, he could easily continue to evolve as a lyricist, especially if he continues to praise the natural beauty of a black woman as he has in “Humble”. That’s big for any hip hop artist to do because we (natural women) aren’t celebrated properly as much as we should be.

This faux outrage is draining and unnecessary, to say the least. Y’all wanna be mad at someone? Direct your anger towards Bill O’Reilly for trying to come for Maxine Waters!

 

 

 

 

Heeeeyyyy, beautiful people!!!!!!

I’m so happy to be back and doing what I do best! Did y’all miss me?

 

So many good things in my life have transpired. I moved into my new home, started a side gig, and I also started a new business venture, which will cause some blowuptuism! As of now, I’m getting used to all three, but none of it could keep me from creating content for you, my friend. I just needed some time to “reprogram”. Now, that I’m back, I’d like to share what I’ve learned and/or discovered while I was out of commission.

While I was away, I’ve also noticed a few of these celebs wanting to show off with their petty meter turned up to the max. One of those celebs is singer/actor, Tyrese. Tyrese took to the ‘gram to “advise” black women to basically alter their appearance for “real” men.  This brotha actually told women what to do with their bodies based on his personal opinions. His misguided attempt to give “advice” to black women came off as a rant that was offensive, misogynistic, and it was definitely unsolicited. The 38-year-old newlywed has since deleted the controversial post, but Essence has it and there’s a great article on it, as well. Check it out here.

 

While I was away, a 13-year-old girl’s visit on Dr. Phil for disruptive behavior has resulted in a reported million dollar investment for her. More on why I’m disgusted will be on another post.

 

While I was away, we’ve lost a rock n roll legend, Chuck Berry.

 

While I was away, reports of missing teens in the Washington, DC area has been at an alarming rate. Meanwhile, the FBI has located Tom Jersey’s missing jersey that was stolen after the Superbowl. Read my rage about this in a forthcoming thought piece.

 

While I was away, I’ve discovered how important it is to accept what is. More on that later…

 

While I was away, I’ve learned that Rachel Dolezal still believes she’s black.

 

While I was away, I saw Tameka “Tiny” Harris prove that making boss moves is your best revenge.

 

While I was away, Kendrick Lamar showed the world why he’s a Hip-Hop genius.

 

While I was away, I wondered if ‘The Real’ could survive without weekly guest hosts.

 

While I was away, I’ve learned that celebrity opportunities can be birthed from Youtube.

 

I’ve learned and discovered all the aforementioned and so much more. I cannot wait to share my thought pieces on everything.

Thank YOU for being patient and sticking it out with me.

 

I’m glad to be back 🙂