As adults, we can become overwhelmed with the complexities of life; parenthood, relationships, and careers all while  trying to keep a roof over our heads. It’s enough to make you want to crawl back into your mama’s womb for a “do-over”.

When we were younger, we couldn’t wait to become adults. Now that we’re adults, we think back and wonder what the hell we were thinking!

Every now and then, it’s okay to take a break from being an adult. Here are 8 ways to do so without feeling guilty!

A Weekend Getaway– Wouldn’t it be nice to just go away for a few days without thinking about bills, the kids, or your spouse/significant other who’s been getting on your last nerve? Plan a small and affordable trip for yourself or with a couple of your friends that will help take the stress away.

Retail Therapy Without The Family- If you have a few dollars to spare after paying your bills, treat yourself at the mall. Whether it’s that shirt you’ve been eye-balling for a while or just walking through it until you see something that catches your eye, treating yourself WITHOUT your loved ones tagging along provides a certain level of tranquility.

Go to an Amusement Park- Jumping on your favorite rides always bring out the excited kid in you!

Say ‘NO’ more often- Say no to anyone or anything that will inconvenience you. The more you say no, the time needed to do more important things will be revealed to you.

Choose at least one day to do nothing- Pick a day to just…do nothing. No television, no radio, no internet, no phone….everything is turned off! Well…maybe not the radio. Perhaps, listening to your favorite jazz station could do you some good:-) When you spend the day doing absolutely nothing, it rids the stress in your spirit and relaxes your mind.

Work on Your Favorite Hobby– Work on a project that brings you joy. It’ll help take your mind off more serious things.

One Day Without Driving Anywhere- If possible, take a day without driving anywhere. Get a loved-one to run typical errands, while you take a much-needed breather.

Read Blogs on How to Take the Stress Away- Every little bit of advice helps, thus the reason for this piece. Blogs offer many pointers on how to live a stress-free life as an adult. Take advantage of the information that is TOTALLY free all through the internet.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Although this isn’t the first time we’ve seen expected Mommy, Janet Jackson, it’s wonderful to see the glowing mother-to-be with her baby bump.

This will be the first child for both Janet and her husband, Wissam Al Mana. After rumors floated around that she used a surrogate, the 50-year-old confirmed her pregnancy with ‘People Magazine’.

“We thank God for our blessing,” says the star.

Over the last few months, Jackson has kept a low profile and was last spotted shopping for baby buys at London’s Back in Action furniture store.

“She is super excited about her pregnancy and is doing extremely well,” a source close to the Jackson family previously told PEOPLE. “She actually feels very good about everything.”

For more on how Janet Jackson is prepping for motherhood, pick up the latest issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday.

Being a mother can be a challenge.

Being a single mother can be a bigger challenge.

Being a single mother and dating is a highly difficult task!

No one said dating as a single parent would be easy, but dagnabbit! One would have to wonder why there wasn’t a warning! There are many factors single mothers have to consider when it comes to dating. Some we’ve expected and some we thought were impossible. The one thing I feel we can all agree on is that dating is HARD when you have little ones. Dating as a single mother can also be scary!

Single mothers also have to deal with the stigma that they’re looking for “fathers for their children”, which for the most part, is an assumption. The REAL father could be a part of their lives, but unfortunately…that’s not the initial thing that comes to the mind of a man who’s curious about the single mother he’s involved with.

Here are four ways single mothers can effectively balance the act of dating while being a mom:

Wait a while before introducing your guy to the kids- Introducing a prospective boyfriend to your kids is risky. Especially when you haven’t invested enough time in getting to know more of him. If things go south, you will not only be hurt, but the children will, too, because they’ve already gotten attached. Wait as long as you possibly can to introduce your guy to your kids. Waiting gives you the time to see if the both of you see the future on the same page.

 

Take pride in your low tolerance for bullshit- As single mothers, we’ve become less patient with any man who doesn’t live up to our particular standards. Because we spend most of our time with our children, we make sure we spend the bit of free time we have with someone with good qualities and not losers. One of the best ways to spend our free time is with people we like.

 

Be up front with your guy about your kid(s) father- The guy you’re dating becomes curious about the father of your little ones, as expected. Be honest about the relationship you and the father have and how much he’s a part of the kids’ lives with him. It will only make him respect you more.

 

You can still do the horizontal hokey pokey, but be discreet Whether the kids have met your guy or not, being intimate somewhere besides your home or when your kids are not home, is more appropriate. Not exposing them to clues that a man has spent the night shows respect for your children.

 

 

Keshia Knight-Pulliam, who married Ed Hartwell in the beginning of the year, is seen here photographed with friends, revealing a SERIOUS baby bump.

The former child star of ‘The Cosby Show’ made the official announcement on the ‘gram with a cute photo, also revealing the baby’s sex. #ItsAGirl.

 

 

Surprise!!! We have a new addition coming soon… Tune into #KandidlyKeshia this week for the details!!

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My bestie in my head, Marsha Ambrosius, is expecting her first child with her boyfriend, and I couldn’t be happier for one of my favorite vocal artists.

The Grammy-Nominated vocalist and one-half of Floetry made the announcement during her Prince tribute at the 2016 Essence Music Festival in New Orleans. She confirmed toEssence’ that she’s expecting a girl.

 

Marsha KINDA gave it away days earlier with this recent Instagram picture of her belly…

 

 

Trim! My bad @bizzeeb lol I was tired watching blow dry this thing lol BUT IT WAS WORTH IT 😂😂😂

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The Royal Hip Hop couple of the South, Clifford “T.I” Harris and Tameka “Tiny” Harris are awaiting their newest bundle of joy (baby No. 7), and what better way to celebrate the soon-to-be arrival than with the cutest maternity shoot?

Famous photographer Derek Banks captured T.I and Tiny so beautifully, as Tameka is dressed in a white buttoned-down top and bikini-type bottoms. She lies on her back, showing off her perfectly round belly, while T.I. seals a kiss on her cheek.

 

 

Imagine giving birth to twins, only to discover one baby is black and the other baby is white!

That’s what happened to a couple in the UK!

When Libby and her mate of three years, Tafadzwa Madzimbamuto, found out they were expecting in June of 2014, they were told their twins would look so similar, they’d have to be marked with ink to differentiate them. It turned out that marking the babies with ink wasn’t necessary, as the parents became pleasantly surprised during the birth to see their twin daughters with different skin tones and different color eyes!

Amelia and Jasmine, both now one-year-old, are thought to be the first identical twins in the UK with different skin color, despite coming from the same egg, according toMetro’.

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“When they were born, we were flabbergasted – even the doctors couldn’t believe it,” Libby tells ‘Metro’. “They look like they’re different races. Amelia is the spitting image of her dad, while Jasmine is a mini version of me.”

 

The twins are monozygotic, meaning they were formed in the same embryo, but developed in separate sacs. However a placenta sample confirmed the babies are 100 per cent genetically identical.

 

Congratulations to model mogul Tyra Banks and her boyfriend, Norwegian photographer, Erik Asla.

Tyra took to Instagram to make the special announcement that she and Erik are new parents of a baby boy, thanks to a surrogate.

During an episode of Tyra’s now defunct daytime talk show, Fab Life, Tyra was overcome with emotion as she discussed the pressure to have children. Also on the show, co-host Chrissy Teigen expressed frustration about folks that ask, ‘when are you having kids?‘ Chrissy is currently expecting her first baby with husband, John Legend.

Their lives have done a complete 180 for the better since that episode four months ago. So happy for these two women.

Tyra also confirmed the baby news with People

 

“We are so excited for our new baby boy bundle of joy. The journey to now has not been an easy process, as I’ve shared before. But there was a beautiful bright light at the end of the tunnel for me and his father, Erik,” she tells PEOPLE in an exclusive statement. “As I gaze into the beautiful eyes of my son, I think about all the people who struggle with fertility or carrying a child and continue to pray for them every day. My hopes and dreams are filled with well wishes that they get to feel what my little treasure, York Banks Asla, feels like in my arms.”

When Teyana Taylor gave birth to her first child with fiancé Iman Shrumpert, it was actually a month earlier. Teyana took to Facebook to send a message to her daughter about that special day, complete with an adorable photo.

 

 

Mommy carried you & Daddy delivered you on this very day last month, crazy that you were actually due today. However you made Dec. 16th the best day of our lives. Happy one month my love.. ❤️ #JuneBug

Posted by Teyana Taylor on Friday, January 15, 2016

 

We recently reported that new mom, Teyana Taylor, gave birth to her baby girl unexpectedly in the bathroom of her home, as fiance Iman Shrumpert helped deliver his daughter. The Cleveland Cavaliers star and R&B songstress recently shared with Good Morning America the details of their special moment. Iman was overcome with emotion as he explained how it felt once his baby girl entered the world. Watch video of full interview below

 

 


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A letter to a friend:

Blended families are NEVER easy, but here’s why I don’t have a lot of sympathy for your situation because… we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package…Period! If I didn’t want that…I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going to love Trey…I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him…his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other… but we have learned to LOVE each other.

I can’t support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand. We can’t say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT’S selfishness…NOT love. WOMAN UP… I’ve been there…I know. My blended family made me a giant… Taught me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It’s time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.
J

This is a letter that Jada Pinkett-Smith penned in 2013 to the selfish moms in Facebook land. While reading this, I was impressed at Mrs. Smith’s level of maturity, as she openly shared her need to not only embrace Will’s first child but his mother (Sheree Fletcher) as well.

As times changed, so did the structure of families. A couple who marries and starts a family afterwards is the ideal way, but it’s not the reality for a lot of couples today. In reality, a lot of us has had children out-of-wedlock but is still blessed to find love.  Accepting each other’s kids gives you both an uber amount of kudos. Coming into the relationship, you already knew they were a package. You both plan to marry and that’s wonderful. However, for whatever reason, you can’t bring yourself to like the parent of your future step-child.

This is where you have to evaluate your level of maturity or lack thereof. As Jada mentioned…if you love the child, you have to find a way to love the person who brought your step-child into the world. I’m sure after years of animosity, it could be a struggle, but making peace is what keeps a family together. Your peace, acceptance, and love is the glue that keeps the family together. Remember when you marry, you are co-parenting with not only your husband but with his child’s mother, too! The three of you have to work as a team, no matter what happened in the past. You’d be surprised at the dynamic between you and her. Teaming up could not only strengthen the friendship between you and her, but your man will see your effort and fall more in love with you.

Letting go of any resentment or animosity is necessary to make blended families a peaceful family. Never think it’s your right to come between your husband and his child because you don’t get along with the child’s mother. Not only are you being childish and selfish, but your behavior will strip that child of his right to be raised in a positive and stress-free household. You also subconsciously make that child have to “choose sides”.

Let go….forgive….move on…love

these are the four keys to help strengthen the bond of your blended family.

If you or someone you know is struggling with making peace, send them this post.

As always, thanks  for reading. 🙂

As mothers, we alway make sure our kids are well taken care of, nurtured and loved. That’s a 24 hours, seven days a week job and like ALL jobs, we need an occasional break, even if it’s just for a couple of hours. When we finally make plans to go out and hang with other adults, our righteous behavior reinforces our need to express what we as mothers deserve “Damn right! I need some time out”, “Our kids aren’t the only ones who can have fun!”. But twenty minutes after we’ve left the house, that guilt creeps in, making us wonder if we’re doing the right thing. Maybe it’s the looks our kids’ faces when they realize we’re leaving the house without them. Those hangdog expressions get us every time. Maybe you feel you SHOULD be in the house because you are in fact a mother.

It happens to the best of us. It’s the struggle between doing what’s right for our children and implementing joy in our own lives. The fact is…WE CAN DO BOTH.  The problem is we don’t think we can because we feel we owe our children EVERYTHING.

The one thing we have to remember is we can’t properly function as mothers if we don’t practice balance. All work and parenting with no play will leave you with a bunch of stress, a stank attitude, and a bald head after pulling all of your hairs out! Tire tracks will be all up and down your walls because your kids are driving you up it all the time!

Know that some time away from your children is well deserved and needed. Whether it’s for a couple of hours or a couple of days, they will get to a point where they’ll realize that they’ll be okay without you, so don’t let the sad puppy dog looks convince you otherwise. If your kids are very young, most likely they have no sense of time, so even a few hours will feel like forever to them. Be vague with them when you leave the house. Telling them something like “I’ll be right back” is good enough.

Getting away from the kids is good for your mental state and your health. Parenting is just one component of a busy life. We also have to deal with the complexities of household demands/chores, job-related issues, and in some cases, spousal difficulties. All of that combined could leave you with stress. Stress could lead to health issues. Get the point?

Mom guilt is simply all in our heads. Believe me…our kids won’t even think about you ten minutes after you leave the house, especially when the Cartoon Network is on. Mom guilt comes from what we think we don’t deserve. This is the time to change our thought pattern. We do owe our children, but not in the way you might think. We owe it to them to take care of ourselves. In this case, being selfish is necessary in order to provide peace in everyone’s lives, including our own. Getting time away from your children is good for our mental state, health, and our soul. The older our kids get, the more they’ll understand.

Momma’s gotta have fun, too 🙂