Nothing builds anxiety for your child more during the first day of school than the fear of the unknown. Whether it’s getting used to their surroundings, fitting in, making friends, all while having the pressure to make and maintain good grades, this guide will help your child relieve some of the pressure and anxiety of starting a new school year and making it a great one.

 

Make a habit of asking how their day was and what was the highlight of their day– striking up a conversation of how their day was will help your child open up to you. The more accustomed they become to sharing what happened, the more comfortable they’ll be sharing with you how they’ll feel.

Establish study time– As a parent myself, It’s important for my children to know that the first thing they do when they get home is to crack open their books, do their homework, and spend the last hour as study time. There will be no television, no video games, and no tablet.

Eat breakfast– Eating breakfast before class will help ease the annoyances that come with an empty stomach. When we don’t eat, we can’t function. Breakfast is like spinach to Popeye. Our minds and bodies function better when we eat breakfast. That’s why breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It provides the nutrients and energies needed that leads to better concentration.

Getting readjusted to appropriate bed time– Training your child to go to bed at an appropriate hour is beneficial and I’d suggest starting this at least a week before the first day of school. By the time school starts, your child’s body will get used to winding down at a particular time, making it easier for your child to get enough sleep.

 

Encouragement– As parents, our kids value our opinions. When we tell them that they are going to be great students and they can do it, they will believe you. Their attitude about school will be uplifted. When your child feels good about school, it will show in their performance.

I saw this picture circulating on Facebook, and as I read the question, I immediately studied the picture to find an abnormality. All I saw was maturity between parents and step-parents who are coming together in support of a child, and that’s the way it should be. Unfortunately, in today’s society, some families have a difficult time executing this parenting method. Believe it or not, it takes a village to raise a child and I commend this child’s parents for teaming up for the good of their son’s peace… and for their own. The picture doesn’t show what goes on between them in their everyday life. There might’ve been some conflicting drama before this picture was taken. We’ll never know, but from the looks of this photo, they’ve obviously come to some sort of solution. This photo convinces me that they’re in a much more balanced space, as opposed to many other kids who are stuck in the middle of parenting drama.

The only thing I see wrong with this picture is the question.

It’s so easy for us to go from 0 to 100 when our kids don’t listen. It’s especially embarrassing when we do it in public, scolding and sometimes having to physically grab a hold of them to scare them into listening to us. Us parents see that we let our emotions get the best of us, but how else are we supposed to handle a child who misbehaves and won’t do what he’s told?

As much as we want our children to listen, we have to understand that they are going to push the wrong buttons at times. We should expect them to do that often. As a result, we find ourselves telling them the same things over and over until thy finally do it. However, the older they get, the less we have to repeat ourselves. The only difference is, the older they get, the more serious the rules become. At age six, we tell them to put their toys away. At age sixteen, we tell them to wait for sex. Will they listen at age six? Yes, but they won’t put the toys away anyway. Will they listen at sixteen? Hopefully, but we have to prepare ourselves to accept that they might become sexually active. Do we yell and scream at them, or do we find a way to stay calm and talk to them peacefully?

Now, I know some of you are reading this and say “Not my bad-ass child!”…LOL

I understand and trust me when I say, I feel for the parents who have a child that refuses to do what any adult tells them. What I say to that is to each his own. You know your child better than anyone else does but remember this… After you’re done blowing steam out of your ears, cussing them out, and popping them upside their heads, do you think you’ve accomplished something? Do you think they’ll listen next time? There are many times when I blew the F Bomb at my kids because they did something I didn’t like. I even popped a head a couple of times. In the end, I didn’t feel any better. In fact, I realized  that I let my anger get the best of me and it was better to calm down before I decide to have a talk with them. We get our points across better when our emotions aren’t at a high.

Kids go through life differently than adults do. At an early age such as six, they are still processing what’s right and what’s wrong in life. They’re going to touch an iron, not thinking it’s going to burn them. They’ll have to learn not to touch a hot iron from experience. It’s a part of growing. We have to remember not to lose it when they do. That’s pretty much what we as parents have to consider about our children.

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