Social media allows us to share many things…to a fault.

Sometimes, we can abuse our social media, subjecting our followers to pointless stuff from endless selfies that all look alike to videos of humans having sex with animals.

It’s all enough to make us want to drop off the face of the earth. The job of social media is to provide convenience through digital/virtual assessibility, escapism from the real world while socializing with other folks from all over, and its purpose is to make our lives easier. With what we see daily on our timelines, some folks don’t need to have social media.

As a result, I feel compelled to share the 8 ways we can utilize our social media better.

Be resourceful– We love information that we could use for our benefit. From a link to an informative article to a special recipe, being resourceful for your followers/friends is a helpful way to utilize your social media. Your friends may not say it, but they appreciate information like that.

Be encouraging– You’ll never know what a daily motivational quote or your positive status updates can do for a person feeling discouraged. Your motivating post might be the match to light their fire.

Share events– For some odd reason, promotion teams  sucks when it comes to promoting upcoming concerts/shows/plays/etc. and has for the last few years. Someone who could be a fan of an artist will appreciate your generous sharing of website links for tickets. The last three concerts I attended I found out through social media.

Network- What’s social networking when you don’t network? When it comes to socializing on social media, there’s nothing better than connecting with like-minded people. This will also help you gain more attraction for your business or brand.

Promote your brand/business– Promoting your brand/business on social media will really boost its popularity. Because social media gives you broader access to social media users all over the world, you’ll have a greater chance at profiting.


Stay in touch with family & friends– Social media is great, especially for staying connected with family and friends, particularly those who are out-of-town.


Create a forum/Group with a meaningful purpose– A positive public forum that is dedicated to having discussions on topics involving awareness, solutions, bettering communication, and bridging the gap is a great way to socialize.


Stay interactive– From experience with my social media, I can tell you that no one likes a “wallflower”. Someone can tell when you’re not active when they view your conversations on your profile or lack thereof. If your social media profile shows your last status update/picture/tweet was posted months ago or all we see are game updates, then maybe you don’t need a “friend list”.  Otherwise, be interactive. Let your friends/followers know that you’re there to socialize and network and not just taking up space on their list.




Two non-black women decided to log onto Instagram and target black beauty vlogger, Jennifer Olaleye, with comments asserting that her confidence as a darker-skinned woman is contrived.

“I don’t know where dark skinned girls are getting this confidence from”, one troll commented.


Of course, Jennifer didn’t back down! She replied to both with a clapback that was so classy, yet, beautifully synoptic with chosen words, reppin’ Black Girl Magic! Her response almost made me give her a standing ovation!


Many of Jennifer’s supporters came through with mad love for her.



My thoughts:

I am baffled that some women on this earth still feels the need to tear another woman down. Another thing I’m baffled about is the fact that non-black women spend thousands on skin-tanning (among other things) to look like women they put down.

As a darker-skinned woman, I’m offended that some people believe women who look like me aren’t supposed to exude confidence. I’m sorry that my melanin makes you feel some type of way. What I won’t apologize for is finding my confidence after years as a young girl looking for it. What I won’t apologize for is being able to finally wrap my all of my confidence around me like my favorite blankie.

If you can’t get with that, then that’s your issue.

Kudos to Jennifer for putting those trolls in their places so effortlessly.

What are your thoughts on this?


in 2016, yet, I’m not surprised at the ignorance that still lives in some people.

The Mac Cosmetics line recently posted a picture of a Black model wearing Mac’s “Matte Royal” lip color at the New York Fashion Week  and trolls turned the popular makeup brand’s comment thread into racial shambles! A few even commented that they would unfollow the brand.


Royal romance at @ohnetitelny #AW16. #MACBackstage #NYFW

A photo posted by M∙A∙C Cosmetics (@maccosmetics) on



The photo has over 30,000 comments and counting. Of course, there are some of us who try to instill good sense in some people.




Mac Responds:




The model who owns those beautiful set of lips responded as well:

Model Call, Aamito Lagum
Keep slayin’ racists in their dreams, babygirl.
You slay…all day!

Celebrity makeup artist, Tatiana Ward AKA Beat Face Honey, is on Instagram as you read this, thanks to her fans and supporters that contacted the social media giant on her behalf.

According to Phillymag, Ward’s account was suspended and removed from Instagram for posting this image with a heartfelt message about her aunt, Rose Hamid, the Muslim woman who was thrown out of Donald Trump’s rally after she stood in silent protest.


This is my My #WCW ❤️ Girl Scout leader. Flight attendant. Little sister to my Mommy. Silly. Devoted. Awesome mom to my three awesome cousins. She, my mom and their other two sisters are ladies I marvel at as they’ve all kept their husbands and marriages for over 20 plus years. And let’s not forget that Aunt Rosie stood up to the big bad wolf this week💪🏽 Total rock star! #RoseHamid is not nearly as meek as this illustration would make her look. In fact, I think she might have done the strongest thing in the world even after they yelled at her and said “DO YOU HAVE A BOMB?!?!?” She smiled and said, “No. Do you?”. This question asked of the lady who insisted that my cousins and I do the nay-nay at her daughters wedding and she can murder the stanky leg like a pro😜 It’s unbelievable to watch the lies that have been spread about her by back wood, inbred, banji bloggers…what’s even more unbelievable is that when I speak to her she’s just as chipper and happy about life amidst all of this attention she’s getting. She’s got one mission: To be in the good graces of God by spreading his real message of peace and love & to be heard🙏🏽 I’m so proud to say she’s doing just that💪🏽 #AuntRosieForPresident 🙌🏽

A photo posted by Tatiana Ward (@beatfacehoney) on

Ward posted this image on Wednesday evening, and by the next morning, she was unable to log into her account.

This is video footage of Hamid speaking with CNN about he protest.

Ward set up a second account, where she urged her followers to contact Instagram on her behalf and as mentioned earlier, they did just that!

“Instagram told me that my account was frozen, because I had gone against Instagram policy,” she says. “I clicked to learn more, and it said that my account had been disabled and it listed all of the terms that could cause this. No nudity, no buying likes or followers, and a bunch of other stuff, none of which I had done. Some right wing group must have flagged my page.”

After several days, Tatiana’s original Instagram account was back up…with the image of her aunt still posted.


“They need to implement some type of better solution before they shut a page down like that, especially a page with over 430,000 Instagram followers,” says Ward. “I’ve represented Instagram well on TV and in magazine interviews, and they need to have a better process and better communication.”

My thought:

To most of us, Instagram is just a simple past time. For the rest of us, We use social media to promote our work and Instagram is the perfect promotional tool. Beat Face Honey has become the best of the best in Makeup artistry, thanks to Youtube and Instagram. She’s worked with a lot of faces in the entertainment biz, including Brandy and Nicky Minaj. Ebony has even done a featured interview on her.

Instagram definitely need to consider the fact that their users with a huge following are benefitting them. They tried it and unjustifiably at that!

Good to see Beat Face Honey back in action!

This is proof that you never mess with a black woman, ESPECIALLY when she need her hair done and going to a hair appointment!
Teyana Taylor was the latest victim of Queenz Flip, a popular Instagrammer who drives around unsuspecting passengers and intentionally GOES HAMM when his favorite hip hop song comes on the radio.

Apparently, Queenz didn’t follow specific orders from Teyana and her fiancé, Iman Shrumpert, who warned the prankster not to pull any shenanigans. This is the outcome…

At one point, it looked like he tried to rip her shirt!

It takes a person with lots of courage to admit they were wrong and apologizes. I assume Actress Countess Vaughn wants to go into 2016 with a clean slate and genuine friendships, as she publicly apologizes to former co-star Brandy via Instagram.

The ladies had a falling out during the Moesha days. Brandy even spoke about it during that time.

I think she’s very funny, very talented,” Brandy says. “I just feel like she wants to be in the position I’m in. People tell her, ‘You’re the reason why the show’s successful.’ And she’s told me that before. And she’s called me a b***h-to my face. She said, ‘I’m the reason why the show is successful, bitch.’ In front of a lot of people. And I looked at her like, Wow.

As people grow in age, it’s a blessing when they grow in maturity and spiritually, as well. Countess has shown tremendous courage to not only step up to the plate, but she has shown all of social media that BLACK WOMEN are not always mean, bitter, angry, etc. towards one another.

Sisterhood….that’s what it’s all about.

Read Countess’s message to Brandy below



Brandy responded


This inspires me to make amends with a couple of folks in my life.

Countess Vaughn reminds us that life is too short to hold grudges, not speak, not love, and/or not make peace.

I can dig it

I’ve been using my Facebook page long enough to see that social media can leave a huge impact on people…myself included. I used to always wonder why I read down my timeline and find posts that feel like someone need to invest in a diary, or someone is beefing with a family member, instead of calling that person, or the chick posting 1000 selfies a day, or the guy posting his money after cashing his refund check.

It all makes sense that these people are using social media like Facebook and Instagram to boost their self-esteem.

Sites like Facebook, Instagram, and even Twitter can give a lot of social media users a false sense of belonging. We’re oblivious to what we’re doing because we’re too focused on trying to impress people we’ve never met with pictures, status updates, and a micro-blog with a 140 character limit. It becomes a problem when it becomes a daily habit, especially when there’s no connection with others in the real world.

Then there are those who envy what others post. I’ll use myself as an example because I do this often. When I see a picture of a beautiful couple (perhaps a wedding photo or one of their many “bae-cation” snapshots), my first thought is “I wish it was me”. It makes me realize where I fall short in my life. Leaving me “in my feelings”, if you will. I’ve ended up comparing myself to others in such a short amount of time. Imagine being on social media all day, admiring the people’s lives from the outside, looking in. If you often measure your success by others, it’ll definitely lower your spirit.

It happens to a lot of us but with different scenarios. We forget that everyone’s life looks perfect, but we’re only seeing a snapshot of their reality. We’re always going to see the “happier” moments of people posted on social media.

Social media has the power to affect our mood, turn us into attention-craving narcissists, and change what we think of ourselves. Social media make it hard for us to interact with others in real life.

How do we get rid of this unhealthy virtual habit?

Log off

And if that may be hard to do, limit the time you spend on social media by engaging in real-life events. Spend more time outdoors (without checking Facebook every two minutes). Make sure to get into an activity so enjoyable, that you’ll be too preoccupied and enlightened to even check your phone. Read that book that you’ve wanted to read, or dive into some volunteer work at your local community center.

How you feel about yourself is important, as well. There’s no need to envy the lives &/or success of other because we are all blessed during different times in our lives. I remind myself daily. Be comfortable in your own skin. The more you love yourself, the less you’ll have to convince that on social media with endless selfies. We know you’re beautiful..cut that out. What matters is that you know you’re beautiful without validation from others.

In conclusion, it’s really important for everyone to understand that social media is not the real world. It’s a whole nother world where everybody can be anything they want to be…even happy. We’ll never know if someone’s virtual world matches their real world unless we live in the same household. So remember, don’t let your harmless habit of browsing social media negatively impact your self-worth.

You may not know the name, but I’ll guarantee you, you’ve seen his artwork floating around the internet for awhile. His name is Marcus Prime and he is one of the most popular unpopular artists that we should know.

A lot of his artwork is “NSFW”, but it definitely deserves a spot above your fireplace.



His artwork is sensual, sexy, inspiring, and motivational.

As a woman, he makes me feel good about my body and skin.

You can tell his love for black women goes unparalleled.


With each stroke of his marker, he honors the female body, black love, black pride, and  the overall beauty of his people.


…he even reminds us to stay aware and that change is needed.


With almost 80, 000 followers on his Instagram, Markus keeps us in awe daily with is beautiful, unusual, unique, colorful, thought-proking, and intense art. He even throws in some videos and Twittology (Twitter posts for slow humans) about life and shit 🙂

Get to know Markus Prime. Follow him on Instagram and Tumblr.

You’re welcome.

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