Social media allows us to share many things…to a fault.

Sometimes, we can abuse our social media, subjecting our followers to pointless stuff from endless selfies that all look alike to videos of humans having sex with animals.

It’s all enough to make us want to drop off the face of the earth. The job of social media is to provide convenience through digital/virtual assessibility, escapism from the real world while socializing with other folks from all over, and its purpose is to make our lives easier. With what we see daily on our timelines, some folks don’t need to have social media.

As a result, I feel compelled to share the 8 ways we can utilize our social media better.

Be resourceful– We love information that we could use for our benefit. From a link to an informative article to a special recipe, being resourceful for your followers/friends is a helpful way to utilize your social media. Your friends may not say it, but they appreciate information like that.

Be encouraging– You’ll never know what a daily motivational quote or your positive status updates can do for a person feeling discouraged. Your motivating post might be the match to light their fire.

Share events– For some odd reason, promotion teams  sucks when it comes to promoting upcoming concerts/shows/plays/etc. and has for the last few years. Someone who could be a fan of an artist will appreciate your generous sharing of website links for tickets. The last three concerts I attended I found out through social media.

Network- What’s social networking when you don’t network? When it comes to socializing on social media, there’s nothing better than connecting with like-minded people. This will also help you gain more attraction for your business or brand.

Promote your brand/business– Promoting your brand/business on social media will really boost its popularity. Because social media gives you broader access to social media users all over the world, you’ll have a greater chance at profiting.


Stay in touch with family & friends– Social media is great, especially for staying connected with family and friends, particularly those who are out-of-town.


Create a forum/Group with a meaningful purpose– A positive public forum that is dedicated to having discussions on topics involving awareness, solutions, bettering communication, and bridging the gap is a great way to socialize.


Stay interactive– From experience with my social media, I can tell you that no one likes a “wallflower”. Someone can tell when you’re not active when they view your conversations on your profile or lack thereof. If your social media profile shows your last status update/picture/tweet was posted months ago or all we see are game updates, then maybe you don’t need a “friend list”.  Otherwise, be interactive. Let your friends/followers know that you’re there to socialize and network and not just taking up space on their list.




Two non-black women decided to log onto Instagram and target black beauty vlogger, Jennifer Olaleye, with comments asserting that her confidence as a darker-skinned woman is contrived.

“I don’t know where dark skinned girls are getting this confidence from”, one troll commented.


Of course, Jennifer didn’t back down! She replied to both with a clapback that was so classy, yet, beautifully synoptic with chosen words, reppin’ Black Girl Magic! Her response almost made me give her a standing ovation!


Many of Jennifer’s supporters came through with mad love for her.



My thoughts:

I am baffled that some women on this earth still feels the need to tear another woman down. Another thing I’m baffled about is the fact that non-black women spend thousands on skin-tanning (among other things) to look like women they put down.

As a darker-skinned woman, I’m offended that some people believe women who look like me aren’t supposed to exude confidence. I’m sorry that my melanin makes you feel some type of way. What I won’t apologize for is finding my confidence after years as a young girl looking for it. What I won’t apologize for is being able to finally wrap my all of my confidence around me like my favorite blankie.

If you can’t get with that, then that’s your issue.

Kudos to Jennifer for putting those trolls in their places so effortlessly.

What are your thoughts on this?


Shemar Moore is slamming ignorant folks for their comments on this photo he’s posted on the ‘gram. It’s raised speculation about his sexual orientation because apparently to some folks, it looks “gay”.

Peace Out Toronto… Thank You for all the love n good times ✌🏾️✌🏾️

A photo posted by Shemar Moore (@shemarfmoore) on

Moore didn’t hesitate to let the people know how he felt about their comments.

Yup… I said it!!! Let the comments begin… 🙊😷 I got NOTHING BUT LOVE FOR MY FANS… PERIOD!!! 😘❤️

A video posted by Shemar Moore (@shemarfmoore) on


This takes me back to a piece I’ve written about how society finds it difficult to separate male bonding from emasculation. This is also a simple case of homophobia rearing its ugly head and the people who are giving a platform to expose their idiocy.

Toxic masculinity and homophobia are running rampant in a country full of people who are conditioned to believe certain things. As a result, they expose their ignorance about things they misunderstand or aren’t accustomed to.

Good for Shemar Moore for standing up for himself!

With his latest Instagram pic with the legendary Stevie Wonder, Common serves fans a warning about new music. That could only mean one thing: There’s a collab coming….and we are here for it!!!!


In the studio with Stevie! You’ve been warned. #newmusicalert

A photo posted by Common (@common) on

in 2016, yet, I’m not surprised at the ignorance that still lives in some people.

The Mac Cosmetics line recently posted a picture of a Black model wearing Mac’s “Matte Royal” lip color at the New York Fashion Week  and trolls turned the popular makeup brand’s comment thread into racial shambles! A few even commented that they would unfollow the brand.


Royal romance at @ohnetitelny #AW16. #MACBackstage #NYFW

A photo posted by M∙A∙C Cosmetics (@maccosmetics) on



The photo has over 30,000 comments and counting. Of course, there are some of us who try to instill good sense in some people.




Mac Responds:




The model who owns those beautiful set of lips responded as well:

Model Call, Aamito Lagum
Keep slayin’ racists in their dreams, babygirl.
You slay…all day!

Paris Jackson, daughter of the Late Michael Jackson, fired off on critical Instagram followers who accused her of not meeting their social media expectations. Apparently, Paris isn’t replying to all 141,000 of her followers and they’re lashing out with negative comments. Paris gave them a piece of her mind, but in the midst of letting them “have it”, she revealed a very personal struggle.


Praying…and as someone who has researched Celebrity Worship Syndrome and the folks who struggle with it, I’d say  utilizing that block button would be her best choice.

Celebrity makeup artist, Tatiana Ward AKA Beat Face Honey, is on Instagram as you read this, thanks to her fans and supporters that contacted the social media giant on her behalf.

According to Phillymag, Ward’s account was suspended and removed from Instagram for posting this image with a heartfelt message about her aunt, Rose Hamid, the Muslim woman who was thrown out of Donald Trump’s rally after she stood in silent protest.


This is my My #WCW ❤️ Girl Scout leader. Flight attendant. Little sister to my Mommy. Silly. Devoted. Awesome mom to my three awesome cousins. She, my mom and their other two sisters are ladies I marvel at as they’ve all kept their husbands and marriages for over 20 plus years. And let’s not forget that Aunt Rosie stood up to the big bad wolf this week💪🏽 Total rock star! #RoseHamid is not nearly as meek as this illustration would make her look. In fact, I think she might have done the strongest thing in the world even after they yelled at her and said “DO YOU HAVE A BOMB?!?!?” She smiled and said, “No. Do you?”. This question asked of the lady who insisted that my cousins and I do the nay-nay at her daughters wedding and she can murder the stanky leg like a pro😜 It’s unbelievable to watch the lies that have been spread about her by back wood, inbred, banji bloggers…what’s even more unbelievable is that when I speak to her she’s just as chipper and happy about life amidst all of this attention she’s getting. She’s got one mission: To be in the good graces of God by spreading his real message of peace and love & to be heard🙏🏽 I’m so proud to say she’s doing just that💪🏽 #AuntRosieForPresident 🙌🏽

A photo posted by Tatiana Ward (@beatfacehoney) on

Ward posted this image on Wednesday evening, and by the next morning, she was unable to log into her account.

This is video footage of Hamid speaking with CNN about he protest.

Ward set up a second account, where she urged her followers to contact Instagram on her behalf and as mentioned earlier, they did just that!

“Instagram told me that my account was frozen, because I had gone against Instagram policy,” she says. “I clicked to learn more, and it said that my account had been disabled and it listed all of the terms that could cause this. No nudity, no buying likes or followers, and a bunch of other stuff, none of which I had done. Some right wing group must have flagged my page.”

After several days, Tatiana’s original Instagram account was back up…with the image of her aunt still posted.


“They need to implement some type of better solution before they shut a page down like that, especially a page with over 430,000 Instagram followers,” says Ward. “I’ve represented Instagram well on TV and in magazine interviews, and they need to have a better process and better communication.”

My thought:

To most of us, Instagram is just a simple past time. For the rest of us, We use social media to promote our work and Instagram is the perfect promotional tool. Beat Face Honey has become the best of the best in Makeup artistry, thanks to Youtube and Instagram. She’s worked with a lot of faces in the entertainment biz, including Brandy and Nicky Minaj. Ebony has even done a featured interview on her.

Instagram definitely need to consider the fact that their users with a huge following are benefitting them. They tried it and unjustifiably at that!

Good to see Beat Face Honey back in action!

This is proof that you never mess with a black woman, ESPECIALLY when she need her hair done and going to a hair appointment!
Teyana Taylor was the latest victim of Queenz Flip, a popular Instagrammer who drives around unsuspecting passengers and intentionally GOES HAMM when his favorite hip hop song comes on the radio.

Apparently, Queenz didn’t follow specific orders from Teyana and her fiancé, Iman Shrumpert, who warned the prankster not to pull any shenanigans. This is the outcome…

At one point, it looked like he tried to rip her shirt!

K Michelle took to Instagram to show off her new “assets”!

A while ago,  the R&B songstress publicly announced getting a butt reduction. During her interview with B. Scott, the star expressed how she hates being typecasted because of her voluptuous ass. I can totally understand that! I’m sure that it was quite difficult at times for her to be taken seriously.

“I don’t need a man looking down at my ass when I’m talking numbers.” K Michelle to B. Scott



It takes a person with lots of courage to admit they were wrong and apologizes. I assume Actress Countess Vaughn wants to go into 2016 with a clean slate and genuine friendships, as she publicly apologizes to former co-star Brandy via Instagram.

The ladies had a falling out during the Moesha days. Brandy even spoke about it during that time.

I think she’s very funny, very talented,” Brandy says. “I just feel like she wants to be in the position I’m in. People tell her, ‘You’re the reason why the show’s successful.’ And she’s told me that before. And she’s called me a b***h-to my face. She said, ‘I’m the reason why the show is successful, bitch.’ In front of a lot of people. And I looked at her like, Wow.

As people grow in age, it’s a blessing when they grow in maturity and spiritually, as well. Countess has shown tremendous courage to not only step up to the plate, but she has shown all of social media that BLACK WOMEN are not always mean, bitter, angry, etc. towards one another.

Sisterhood….that’s what it’s all about.

Read Countess’s message to Brandy below



Brandy responded


This inspires me to make amends with a couple of folks in my life.

Countess Vaughn reminds us that life is too short to hold grudges, not speak, not love, and/or not make peace.

I can dig it

Social media can be a gift and a curse depending on which day you login. I was apprehensive about joining and I don’t really remember why, but I was. After some convincing from my mother to give Facebook a try I jumped feet first into the social media pool. A pool that sometimes can be really shallow.

One of the cool things about social media is connecting with people you may have lost contact with over the years. For example, I wanted to get in contact with one of my old counselors from high school and I didn’t know how to. I was able to get her email address because one of my former high school teachers was able to help me through Facebook.

On the flip side things tend to become ridiculous at times. I read online that a random person on Instagram called Solange’s son ugly. I was disappointed because this has become common practice now. I can’t fathom how people make disparaging remarks about someone before they even brush their teeth. I hold some things sacred and I never would do something so silly. People try to out jackass each other. The other day I saw a derogatory comment on an Instagram post about somebody’s daughter making them a birthday cake. How do you hate on that?

Social media has opened the floodgates for people who have nothing better to do than troll people on the Internet and then hide behind fake screen names and stock photos. I love when I see good things trending on social media and I cringe when I see the cell phone videos going viral. There is never going to be a time when people don’t watch train wrecks. That is what it is. I choose not to be a part of the foolery.

Then sometimes we get those out of context videos. Narrative can be twisted any way we want and at the end of the day we have to make our own conclusions. What is on those videos sometimes is another whole blog post. When things evolve sometimes they evolve negatively. That’s what happened with some aspects of social media. There is the constant spamming or being added to groups on Facebook you wouldn’t dare join.

I didn’t think FOCUS was Will Smith’s strongest movie, but I’m not going to go to his social media page and call him a piece of shit actor now. That’s ridiculous. I remember when author/reader or actor/moviegoer interaction was respectful. There was an invisible wall there. Now with social media people think it’s okay to bash (not critique) an author or actor only because they have the means to. Sometimes it’s not even about their projects which is just utter nonsense.

I also hate when a person blasts someone on social media instead of handling the matter privately. Some things I don’t want to know or need to know. Social media is just an image. It’s what we want people to see us as. If we put any and everything out there the social media platforms would explode.

On a good note, I do think it’s a phenomenal tool that has helped more than its hurt, but sometimes I do miss the days before social media.

The days of walking into a bookstore and discovering new talent organically. Marketing wasn’t spamming a Facebook group and hoping something sticks. Your work sealed the deal and people latched on to quality. I had no problem having separation between me and the entertainer (author/actor/etc.) That’s just me. Some people like having access to celebrities or entertainers for the sole purpose of spitting vitriol at them. That’s corny to me and I’m sure their time could be used for something more constructive.

Social media is what you make it and when I log on I’m there to have fun. I implore you to do the same.

Now if you’ll excuse me I’m going to make a call on my house phone with a cord and write my next blog post on this typewriter.

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