There’s a certain level of maturity one must have to have good dating experiences. Dating can be fun and enjoyable, as long as the person you’re dating isn’t using the same techniques and fulfilling the habits that were used while in their twenties…or even their teens. Like fine wine, dating SHOULD get better with age. Unfortunately, some folks do not believe in that sentiment.

Here are five dating habits that should get dropped as you get older!

Using your phone– The purpose for dating is getting to know the person. If you’re constantly texting, answering calls, or checking your social media, that not only screams rudeness, but it shows lack of effort in getting to know the person you’re with. Your full attention should be on him/her. Turn your phone off and show common courtesy.

The “figuring things out” excuse– This excuse is bullshit, especially if you’ve been dating the person for at least six months. What else is there to figure out??? At a certain point, you already know what a few of his/her underwear look like, as well as family life, desires, and this person is obviously liking you enough to stick around past 3 months, so either you’re all in or all out. Grow up and recognize when you’re in an adult relationship.

Being stuck in the past-This includes bringing up past loves, being doubtful about who you’re dating because of what happened in old relationships, or simply making the person you’re dating suffer because of what you went through with the last person. All of that could definitely hurt what could be the best relationship you’ll ever have. Don’t destroy it by living in the past.

Too picky– It’s okay to have standards unless your standards come with a list of must-haves, ranging from Idris Elba/Janet Jackson looks to a seven-figure income. Be mindful…sometimes, that person who looks like a model with an impressive bank account could be an asshole who will either abuse you or cheat on you. As you get older, you’ll realize that it’s not about any of that (looks, material possessions, etc). It’s about the genuine love this person could have for you.

Sex on the brain– This is not good, considering you’re still getting to know the person. If it’s a first date, being too forward and pressing for sex is a guaranteed last date in the process. Take things slowly because it’s the right thing to do. Unless you’re both horny dogs and planned the night to end with acrobatic, hot, butt-nekkid sex, being patient is necessary if you want the union to be taken seriously.

 

 

 

What’s the most common excuse that single people use when we experience the shortcomings of someone we’re dating?

“(S)He’s just not my type.”

The older I’ve got, the less I’ve relied on having types. In fact, having a type has been pretty much non-existent for me. I’ve learned that we could truly miss out on blessings if we focus on the “must haves” and the “should nevers”. The person whose minor shortcomings you put too much focus on could have the biggest heart and treat you like you belong on a throne.

If we really think about it, our “type” could also reflect our desire to date someone that’s similar to us. However, there’s a disadvantage to that. There’s a saying that we are who we attract. If you’re a weirdo, you’re gonna attract a weirdo. If you’re emotionally messy, you’re gonna attract an even more emotionally messy person, so dating your type could be like  messing with a double-edged sword. Be careful.

 

Personality, looks, and similar interests all play a role in determining our ideal type but remember, if your goal is long term relationship with possible marriage, none of that matters if their heart is not in the right place with yours. You guys could be in sink goal-wise and even with similar interests, but that person could also be an asshole.

Choose wisely.

Better yet, get rid of the idea of having “a type”. It shouldn’t matter if they’re too short, too tall, too nice, etc. Get rid of your shallow-like behavior and try giving that short person, that tall person, or that “too nice” person a chance. So what if this person’s job is at a pizza delivery spot? Every experience has a story behind it, so don’t judge. This is where overlooking their shortcomings (according to you) won’t hurt because you’re  trying something that doesn’t fit the mold. Breaking away from your type can be a very good thing.

 

As far as adding this video, I have no reason other than it goes with the message in my blog…LOL

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The popular adult entertainment website Pornhub, doesn’t want to leave anyone out from the enjoyment of porn.

On Wednesday, the company launched “Described Video,” which features spoken narration for 50 videos on its site. The feature is for those who are visually impaired.

50 of the site’s most popular “straight, female-friendly, gay, bi and transsexual videos” got the Described Video treatment, with more to come in future. Professional voice actors provide the voice overs, as does Pornhub Aria. Who or what is Pornhub Aria? Pornhub’s social media personality, of course.

The campaign seeks to explore “how we can not only better serve the visually impaired, but to also understand how to make the site accessible to all,” the company said in a statement.

The move by Pornhub follows similar initiatives by Facebook and Twitter, who have also been seeking to make their platforms more accessible to the visually impaired.

Source: Cnet

Retailers are reportedly placing “skinny mirrors” in dressing rooms. These mirrors can slightly alter a person’s realistic figure, giving the illusion of a slimmer appearance. In most cases, the illusion convinces the person to buy the outfit she/he is trying on. Some say  that it’s “clever marketing”. Consumers believe it’s deception. My question is if you know what size you are and what your body looks like, does it matter?

My first thought ‘was retailers can be such scam artists’, but  after more research on this topic, I’ve come to understand that these mirrors are no more than just a confidence booster. These retailers are only helping people who are leaning towards buying the outfit, anyway. You have an interest in purchasing an outfit when you’re trying it on. No one forces a customer to walk into the dressing room and honestly, One’s reflection isn’t so much about the mirror being used, but how they feel about themselves. It’s only deception when one has personal weight issue.

Belinda Jasmine, founder of The Skinny Mirror™,  says it’s an alternative to cosmetic surgery and claims self-esteem boost from mirror can actually lead to healthy weight loss, according to The Daily Mail. 

As an avid surfer and health enthusiast, Belinda’s was fed up with not feeling like she looked good in any of her outfits and believed she had a ‘fat mirror’.
Although she knew it was the mirror that made her look bigger, she still found herself believing that she was bigger then she actually was.
She puts this down to body dysmorphia – a common condition where a person does not see what they actually look like when they look in the mirror.
She explains: ‘I used The Skinny Mirror prototype for weeks before I committed to do start The Skinny Mirror company.
‘Over time, I felt how it affected my self-image. I stood up taller, felt sexier, and wanted to dress cuter. It was important for me to make this available to individuals so that they too might have an improved body-image
‘The mirror has had plenty of attention online since it surfaced on the Kickstarter earlier this year, with some applauding it for giving women a confidence boost every day, but others saying it deceives women.’

As Belinda states in her company philosophy on the website: ‘If we can give you a little extra confidence before you take the world on in the morning, we’ve done our job.’
Critics of The Skinny Mirror – which is hand crafted in the United States – have said that it is a deception of what you truly look like.

I must say that it’s important to love the skin you’re in, no matter what size you are. As long as you’re healthy, you’re just as beautiful as the next person. We shouldn’t have a “fat mirror” or a skinny mirror” that make us feel a certain way about our bodies, BUT, I’m all in for brands and retailers that helps boost the confidence of  women who has a difficult time boosting it on their own.

As if we didn’t think the Obamas are already the coolest first family ever…they have recently released a full 14-track list of their favorite Christmas songs on Spotify!

May I add that they have awesome musical taste!

Go to Spotify and listen right now!

Get yourself in the holiday spirit the presidential way!

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When we think of domestic violence, we usually think of women as the victims. However, statistics are showing that over 40% of domestic violence victims are men.

As we come up on the end of October (Domestic Violence Awareness Month) I feel compelled to share with you the facts about the other side of domestic violence. In a society that goes by gender roles and gender qualities, it can be quite critical for a man who is a victim of domestic violence. The idea of a man being abused by a woman is a taboo. Usually swept under the rug, men will receive less support than women victims.

Why?

Men are naturally stronger than women and at an average of six feet, a man should be able to handle a woman half his size. Men often don’t report being physically abused by their wives/girlfriends for fear of being looked at as weak and become emasculated with judgement. As a result, they suffer in silence. Just like women, domestic violence affects men just the same;  They become ashamed, frightened, and experience  loss of confidence, self-worth and self-esteem.

The unfortunate part about all of this is the lack of support for male victims of physical abuse. While there’s plenty of resources and countless shelters for women and their children, men are left sleeping on their boy’s couch with no plans for counselling and proper housing, which are vital for a DM victim.

In most cases, men will take a beating rather than hit back for two main reasons; They believe in not hitting women and they’re aware of the possibility of being accused of being the abuser if they defend themselves.

 

If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, please get help and know that you don’t have to suffer in silence. This goes for both men and women! Guys, there are agencies hotlines, and even women-centered shelters that can help you and point you in the right direction. They will link you to resources designed with you in mind.  Just because you are a man does not mean you are impervious to pain!