As adults, we can become overwhelmed with the complexities of life; parenthood, relationships, and careers all while  trying to keep a roof over our heads. It’s enough to make you want to crawl back into your mama’s womb for a “do-over”.

When we were younger, we couldn’t wait to become adults. Now that we’re adults, we think back and wonder what the hell we were thinking!

Every now and then, it’s okay to take a break from being an adult. Here are 8 ways to do so without feeling guilty!

A Weekend Getaway– Wouldn’t it be nice to just go away for a few days without thinking about bills, the kids, or your spouse/significant other who’s been getting on your last nerve? Plan a small and affordable trip for yourself or with a couple of your friends that will help take the stress away.

Retail Therapy Without The Family- If you have a few dollars to spare after paying your bills, treat yourself at the mall. Whether it’s that shirt you’ve been eye-balling for a while or just walking through it until you see something that catches your eye, treating yourself WITHOUT your loved ones tagging along provides a certain level of tranquility.

Go to an Amusement Park- Jumping on your favorite rides always bring out the excited kid in you!

Say ‘NO’ more often- Say no to anyone or anything that will inconvenience you. The more you say no, the time needed to do more important things will be revealed to you.

Choose at least one day to do nothing- Pick a day to just…do nothing. No television, no radio, no internet, no phone….everything is turned off! Well…maybe not the radio. Perhaps, listening to your favorite jazz station could do you some good:-) When you spend the day doing absolutely nothing, it rids the stress in your spirit and relaxes your mind.

Work on Your Favorite Hobby– Work on a project that brings you joy. It’ll help take your mind off more serious things.

One Day Without Driving Anywhere- If possible, take a day without driving anywhere. Get a loved-one to run typical errands, while you take a much-needed breather.

Read Blogs on How to Take the Stress Away- Every little bit of advice helps, thus the reason for this piece. Blogs offer many pointers on how to live a stress-free life as an adult. Take advantage of the information that is TOTALLY free all through the internet.

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s not often we hear of someone praising their ex’s new boo, especially when there are children involved. A breakup typically ends with tension and the child(ren) caught in the middle.

However, a woman on Facebook by the name of Candace Sutton proved that with balance, structure, and maturity, blended families can be successful.

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Candace inspired so many with a heartfelt Facebook post/open letter to her son’s father’s new wife.

To my son’s other mom,
9 years ago, I would have never placed you in our lives. But a few years ago, Jaedyn came home ranting and raving about his dad’s new girlfriend Taryn. I wasn’t in any rush to like you. It was nothing personal, but I just didn’t feel like trying. I met you through the eyes of my son. I learned to love you because of that. I saw the way you stepped in and did what he needed- not because you had to but because you CHOSE to- and words can’t ever express how much I needed you to do that.
It’s so easy loving children that are yours. But it takes a special kind of woman to love a child that’s not hers. I know my son so well. I know how difficult and frustrating it must have been to adjust to his passive and nonchalant behavior. The way he stares at you when you ask him a question, with no answer to follow. I know it had to be hard learning to be a parent, unexpectedly. But you mastered it!! You stepped in and took care of business, while maintaining the utmost respect for me.
I know there were times you put yourself behind his wants and needs and you didn’t sign up for that. But you did it…. I’ve grown to love you for that. I watched you walk down the aisle today to say “I do” to my son’s father, and I was overwhelmed with joy. Deep down, I know that my son will forever be in good hands with you. Today, Jaedyn is no longer just Mine and David’s. He’s yours, too.
THANK YOU!!
So glad y’all allowed me to share this day with you. 💓
Sincerely,
“The unconventional baby mama” 😂

 

Unconventional indeed, but ohhh soo inspiring. The level of understanding and maturity between these outstanding adults is unparalleled. Good for them and good for the dad for obviously picking good women to be a part of his son’s life!

I saw this picture circulating on Facebook, and as I read the question, I immediately studied the picture to find an abnormality. All I saw was maturity between parents and step-parents who are coming together in support of a child, and that’s the way it should be. Unfortunately, in today’s society, some families have a difficult time executing this parenting method. Believe it or not, it takes a village to raise a child and I commend this child’s parents for teaming up for the good of their son’s peace… and for their own. The picture doesn’t show what goes on between them in their everyday life. There might’ve been some conflicting drama before this picture was taken. We’ll never know, but from the looks of this photo, they’ve obviously come to some sort of solution. This photo convinces me that they’re in a much more balanced space, as opposed to many other kids who are stuck in the middle of parenting drama.

The only thing I see wrong with this picture is the question.

Imagine giving birth to twins, only to discover one baby is black and the other baby is white!

That’s what happened to a couple in the UK!

When Libby and her mate of three years, Tafadzwa Madzimbamuto, found out they were expecting in June of 2014, they were told their twins would look so similar, they’d have to be marked with ink to differentiate them. It turned out that marking the babies with ink wasn’t necessary, as the parents became pleasantly surprised during the birth to see their twin daughters with different skin tones and different color eyes!

Amelia and Jasmine, both now one-year-old, are thought to be the first identical twins in the UK with different skin color, despite coming from the same egg, according toMetro’.

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“When they were born, we were flabbergasted – even the doctors couldn’t believe it,” Libby tells ‘Metro’. “They look like they’re different races. Amelia is the spitting image of her dad, while Jasmine is a mini version of me.”

 

The twins are monozygotic, meaning they were formed in the same embryo, but developed in separate sacs. However a placenta sample confirmed the babies are 100 per cent genetically identical.

 

 

A letter to a friend:

Blended families are NEVER easy, but here’s why I don’t have a lot of sympathy for your situation because… we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package…Period! If I didn’t want that…I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going to love Trey…I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him…his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other… but we have learned to LOVE each other.

I can’t support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand. We can’t say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT’S selfishness…NOT love. WOMAN UP… I’ve been there…I know. My blended family made me a giant… Taught me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It’s time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.
J

This is a letter that Jada Pinkett-Smith penned in 2013 to the selfish moms in Facebook land. While reading this, I was impressed at Mrs. Smith’s level of maturity, as she openly shared her need to not only embrace Will’s first child but his mother (Sheree Fletcher) as well.

As times changed, so did the structure of families. A couple who marries and starts a family afterwards is the ideal way, but it’s not the reality for a lot of couples today. In reality, a lot of us has had children out-of-wedlock but is still blessed to find love.  Accepting each other’s kids gives you both an uber amount of kudos. Coming into the relationship, you already knew they were a package. You both plan to marry and that’s wonderful. However, for whatever reason, you can’t bring yourself to like the parent of your future step-child.

This is where you have to evaluate your level of maturity or lack thereof. As Jada mentioned…if you love the child, you have to find a way to love the person who brought your step-child into the world. I’m sure after years of animosity, it could be a struggle, but making peace is what keeps a family together. Your peace, acceptance, and love is the glue that keeps the family together. Remember when you marry, you are co-parenting with not only your husband but with his child’s mother, too! The three of you have to work as a team, no matter what happened in the past. You’d be surprised at the dynamic between you and her. Teaming up could not only strengthen the friendship between you and her, but your man will see your effort and fall more in love with you.

Letting go of any resentment or animosity is necessary to make blended families a peaceful family. Never think it’s your right to come between your husband and his child because you don’t get along with the child’s mother. Not only are you being childish and selfish, but your behavior will strip that child of his right to be raised in a positive and stress-free household. You also subconsciously make that child have to “choose sides”.

Let go….forgive….move on…love

these are the four keys to help strengthen the bond of your blended family.

If you or someone you know is struggling with making peace, send them this post.

As always, thanks  for reading. 🙂

Nothing builds anxiety for your child more during the first day of school than the fear of the unknown. Whether it’s getting used to their surroundings, fitting in, making friends, all while having the pressure to make and maintain good grades, this guide will help your child relieve some of the pressure and anxiety of starting a new school year and making it a great one.

 

Make a habit of asking how their day was and what was the highlight of their day– striking up a conversation of how their day was will help your child open up to you. The more accustomed they become to sharing what happened, the more comfortable they’ll be sharing with you how they’ll feel.

Establish study time– As a parent myself, It’s important for my children to know that the first thing they do when they get home is to crack open their books, do their homework, and spend the last hour as study time. There will be no television, no video games, and no tablet.

Eat breakfast– Eating breakfast before class will help ease the annoyances that come with an empty stomach. When we don’t eat, we can’t function. Breakfast is like spinach to Popeye. Our minds and bodies function better when we eat breakfast. That’s why breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It provides the nutrients and energies needed that leads to better concentration.

Getting readjusted to appropriate bed time– Training your child to go to bed at an appropriate hour is beneficial and I’d suggest starting this at least a week before the first day of school. By the time school starts, your child’s body will get used to winding down at a particular time, making it easier for your child to get enough sleep.

 

Encouragement– As parents, our kids value our opinions. When we tell them that they are going to be great students and they can do it, they will believe you. Their attitude about school will be uplifted. When your child feels good about school, it will show in their performance.