I’m angry that a young mother of three was taken from her kids because a man could not accept her disinterest in him.
According to CBS Pittsburgh, Janese Talton-Jackson was approached by the suspect, 41-year-old Charles McKinney, before closing time at ‘Cliff’s Bar’ in Pittsburgh, but she ignored his advances. Police say after closing, he followed her outside and shot her in the chest.
Like Janese, every other woman has the right to say ‘not interested‘ when approached by men. Some men accept that and move on like gentlemen, some will respond to our disinterest with rude or unlikely behavior, and the rest will kill us.
It’s a blunt thing to say, but unfortunately, it’s true.
As a woman, I’ve experienced enough and have seen/heard enough to know that a man with a bruised ego could be dangerous for girls and women. This is not the first time we’ve heard of a woman killed by a man who she turned down and as a woman, that scares the shit out of me. I’m also scared for my 12-year-old daughter. One day, she will be accosted on the street by a guy who wants her number. Will he simply move on? Will he call her a bitch and/or spit on her? Or would he feel so embarrassed and disappointed, that he will pull out a gun and shoot her dead?
Janese could have been any of us! When we’re going about our daily lives, we’re not thinking of the possibility of being murdered when we turn down a guy’s request to exchange numbers. We shouldn’t have to fear for our lives when we say no but it’s become more apparent that we should be more cautious and observant when we’re approached. Janese’s story has shed light on a societal issue with misogyny and mental health that I wish we could somehow tackle head on. It’s my belief that those issues are why women are dying by the hands of men who can’t handle rejection. I’d like to think we can pinpoint the mental issues of strangers before we meet them, but I know that’s impossible. Incidents like this happen all the time. In some cases, the woman is beaten and bruised, but she lives to tell about it. Janese is one of many victims who will never get a chance to see her children grow and experience more of life because a “man” took her life for saying NO.
I look back at the few times I’ve been approached and immediately think of how lucky I am that the men I’ve turned down accepted my disinterest like gentlemen and walked away. I look at my children and wonder how much they’d struggle if I wasn’t here for them. Janese’s twin girls and a one-year-old son will never get to be cared for and nurtured by their mommy ever again. I can’t even imagine how they’ll feel everytime they hear how and why their mom died.
Janese Talton-Jackson was murdered….because she said no.
…and that makes me angry.