Tennis Goddess, Serena Williams, recently announced her engagement to Reddit co-founder, Alexis Ohanian on Reddit (how cute and clever).

Serena and Alexis kept their relationship low-key, although she does post pictures of them on her Instagram account from time to time. According to CNN, they’ve been dating since Fall of 2015. As a person who supports dating privately when in the public eye, I can vouch that this couple keeping their relationship out of the spotlight probably contributes to why Serena has “a ring on it”.

One of the reasons why is proof in the comment sections of blogs and social media.

The comments that a lot of you guys, particularly black men, post about Serena and Alexis’s engagement has me convinced that you were hurt really pad in a past relationship, you were raised close-minded, or that you know this couple personally.  Either way…I wish that you guys would just post a CONGRATS and shut the hell up!

We don’t know these people personally, so I’d like to know how any of us can judge or criticize this woman for dating outside her race. If you’ve paid any attention, you’d already know that Serena gave black men a chance and for whatever reason, none of them worked out. The man who is for her just happens to be Caucasian and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

This man obviously saw her worthy enough to ask for her hand in marriage…something her past dudes couldn’t do, so what does that have anything to do with you and how you feel???

NOTHING AT ALL!!!!!!

The woman found love, and I can’t understand why some of y’all, as FANS, can’t help her celebrate that!

You all see a black woman with a white man and common sense is replaced with ignorance. Why are there discussions about her relationship that alludes to personal betrayal over someone you’ve never met??

 

Do I need to remind you all how “mad” black men got when entertainer, Ciara, got engaged to football player, Russell Wilson, after her nasty break up with rapper Future?

Her choice in a man was obviously the best for her, because she and Russell are now married with a baby on the way.

But naw…y’all gotta have “discussions” about her…and Russell is BLACK!

It leads me to believe one general problem that I can no longer deny and that’s black men’s uncontrollable ability to disrespect black women. I’ve observed the dynamic between black men and black women for some time and the disrespect and lack of uplifting from out brothas is evident in how we communicate with one another.

When the brothas feel threatened or inadequate in some way, shape or form, they express their frustration in other ways which, sometimes, forces the black women in their lives to become emotional punching bags. In my opinion, this problem fester in toxic romantic relationships. Hence, some of y’all’s need to dog Serena for saying “yes” to a dude who doesn’t look like you.

My assessment may be far-fetched or way off….it also may be on point.

Either way,  I urge everyone who’s had nothing positive to say about this woman’s engagement to just keep your thoughts to yourselves and work on your own relationship issues.

Better yet…work on being more open-minded for 2017. You should already know that we gonna love who we wanna love.

Congrats to Serena and Alexis

 

 

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