Really what is a relationship? Is it this connective bond between two individuals that permits them to find some beam of energy surging through their bodies – convincing them that they can label each other a pair? Is a relationship a partnership in agreement, which defines loyalty and the capturing of a feeling so indescribable that you feed off of it continuously out of moderation? Maybe a relationship is the moment you found someone so attractive that you wanted to be around them because of what their looks have caused you to feel, or perhaps someone has the exact accessories and quantity of qualities you need in order to feel assisted in life achieving your own agenda (or divine purpose).
What is a relationship to you? Some may say that it starts with physical attraction, the appeal that has been driven into the mind as this captivating lightning bolt stinging every sensual nerve. Next, it manifest into the attention you request and require, and how often that individual can provide it. After that, you know (and quite cliché) date it out until you two realize exactly what other than this individuals looks you appreciate most – and enough to grow attached to – willingly. Then, you begin to observe what exactly you are willing to tolerate, what will bother you but not aggravate you into insanity. Finally, time tells all tales, at this point you have confirmed what brought you in, what can keep you in, what you can tolerate, and what exactly is the true reason you would like to possess this person.
Possession; is that not the word of the day as in any connection the results are that you feel like you can obtain all and any power with and over this person you so called have feelings for? Indeed, and while yet to be disclosed where does love play its role in this unique bond created from so many pros and cons. Well, the thing is today, everything matters but unfortunately, it does not when time is of concern.
People are impatient. As humans, we want what we think we need now and need what we think we want yesterday. Why are we so impatient? Quite the psychological oxy when you consider that patience is the evidence of many successful relationships. And then I ask again, what is a relationship? You have to know, or else you would be practically jumping blind into some random reaction to feelings you over time begin to careless of the origin. So, who has the right answer to this question, no one?
Why are we so impatient? Quite the psychological oxy when you consider that patience is the evidence of many successful relationships. And then I ask again, what is a relationship? You have to know, or else you would be practically jumping blind into some random reaction to feelings you over time begin to careless of the origin. So, who has the right answer to this question, no one?
Many of us do not understand what love is, and then as we misunderstand the actuality of its existence, we also misinterpret how we can universally understand how to use love. Love is the feeling that has no explanation and describable reaction. Love can make you do anything – bad or good – as you connect with a person more. But, what makes a relationship, understanding love and how to incorporate the feeling in your established bond. And, that is hardly the case. It is to my observation as we lack patience, we lack levels, as we skip and fail to ever surface levels we find ourselves divulging into a chemical bond constructed from the foundation of lust or love or ignorance. Ignorance plays a major role in relationships because knowing nothing is just as bad as knowing everything and why you ask?
Say your shoe laces just became untied, and you do not know how to tie yours shoes but you want them tied, and now say your shoe laces just became untied and you know how to tie your shoes and want them tied. In the end, your shoes need to be tied regardless if you know how or not. With love, whether you know what you are doing with these feelings or not, you still have to use it and will.
Love becomes hazardous when we misunderstand what we feel it for. A relationship is defined by what we love about the bond created from the foundation established and what compels us to keep that bond continuously healthy and ongoing. Why do we grow apart? Because one of you changed and the other did not, or possibly no one changed and you both need to? Realistically, what can you connect from this intuition of interchanging emotions, probably that nothing is certain whether you understand why or how or not.
A relationship is not a certain thing, and that is because we lack the patience to determine what exactly the purpose of the foundation created is and as well how it was created. You fall in love with him or her because they look gorgeous and they have this and that and you process those appeals with wanting to feel needed. But, when do we learn about each other, it would seem only after everything else seemed to matter first. Is learning who someone is ever our top agenda before a relationship? NO it is not. If you think about it, we let how good someone looks and what they have built our foundation for a relationship and leave the relationship to be a responsibility for figuring out who you are in love with.
Read the last eight words in that last sentence. EXACTLY!
Now why on earth would you want to spend your newly created bond trying to determine who you made it with? If you ask me, it appears most relationships should be learning how to be devoted to learning how to sustain they energy that kept this individual and you connected. This means before you two sealed the deal you learned who you sealed it with, and the devotion now lies in regards to keeping the sealing sealed between the sealers. When an athlete learns to play a sport, they play it, but they are not just playing it always to figure it out, they are playing it because they figured it out and want to be the best at what they have discovered. A relationship is an act of loyalty because you understand who this person you love is and why they mean so much to you that you are sustaining all the positive feelings [and new ones created out of the behavior] for the purpose of now thriving in joy.
What is the goal of your bond? Why did you allow yourself to tolerate this, and accept that, and understand this and that while being reminded of why the spark first made fire?
Why is it an obligation? Why is a relationship labels? Ask yourself these questions and seek out the answers. Feelings are involved her and people are devoted to you. But, what comes of such devotion when there is no knowledge of why the devoting has devoted? Why are you two together? Is it good enough? Is this really the one person that captures every positive feeling in your body, and redistributes it directly into your heart like a needle full of adrenaline thrust into a beat-less heart?
To be honest, we all have our opinions of what a relationship truly is. Mine is not deemed fact or suggested to become your version of reality. However, I will say that relationships today are losing any meaning at all. Soon, a bond will be no greater than the time it quickly ceases to last. We are failing, in my opinion, to love each other successfully and pair up connectively with purpose. I pray that this helps some of you develop your own questions and answers.
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By: Cori Coleman, author