With so much temptation in the world, one would say that staying dedicated to one partner is impossible. Contrary to popular belief, Monogamy still exists. As a culture, we’ve failed miserably at practicing it. I look forward to the day when we as a culture can accept one partner to court because we’ll feel one partner is all we need.

Too many of us crave variety

In some cases, the sexual passion we develop for  our partner fades with time

Many ppl believe monogamy goes against human nature.

If you are one of those people who don’t practice monogamy, you’ll get no judgment from me. However, I’m judging you for not being honest with your partner. 40 to 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce with extramarital sex as the leading cause. There’s a lot of unhappy and unlucky in love people because of the selfishness and dishonesty of their mates. A lot of relationships are started under false pretenses when one assumes what he or she wants is what their mate wants and that’s being committed to only each other. I used to think it was generational, meaning folks born in the nineties were more likely to fail at monogamy than the older generation. Single folks in my generation are suffering just as bad, if not more!

In the dating world, there’s a subconscious pattern for “unsure” folks who are confused about what they really want. There’s a little voice that pops up and asks “Do I stay or do I stray?” when they feel things are getting too serious. Their environment and their social life play a huge part in their decision-making. Unfortunately, considering the feelings of the mate is the least of their worries. Why? They HAVE to do what’s best for THEMSELVES, first and foremost. They’re oblivious to the fact that they have a fear of commitment. As a result, they mask it with “being free to please”.

Wil there ever be a time when our culture will embrace serial monogamy? Probably not. It’s idealistic, but not realistic. With so much sexual temptation and the need to have “options”, I would be crazy to think that would really happen. I look forward to it, but I’m not going to kill myself by holding my breath. What will matter is that I’ll be blessed with an honest mate one day; one who’s aware of the world we live in, but to him…I’m his world. Monogamy can exist with the right person.

 

 

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