I’ve been using my Facebook page long enough to see that social media can leave a huge impact on people…myself included. I used to always wonder why I read down my timeline and find posts that feel like someone need to invest in a diary, or someone is beefing with a family member, instead of calling that person, or the chick posting 1000 selfies a day, or the guy posting his money after cashing his refund check.

It all makes sense that these people are using social media like Facebook and Instagram to boost their self-esteem.

Sites like Facebook, Instagram, and even Twitter can give a lot of social media users a false sense of belonging. We’re oblivious to what we’re doing because we’re too focused on trying to impress people we’ve never met with pictures, status updates, and a micro-blog with a 140 character limit. It becomes a problem when it becomes a daily habit, especially when there’s no connection with others in the real world.

Then there are those who envy what others post. I’ll use myself as an example because I do this often. When I see a picture of a beautiful couple (perhaps a wedding photo or one of their many “bae-cation” snapshots), my first thought is “I wish it was me”. It makes me realize where I fall short in my life. Leaving me “in my feelings”, if you will. I’ve ended up comparing myself to others in such a short amount of time. Imagine being on social media all day, admiring the people’s lives from the outside, looking in. If you often measure your success by others, it’ll definitely lower your spirit.

It happens to a lot of us but with different scenarios. We forget that everyone’s life looks perfect, but we’re only seeing a snapshot of their reality. We’re always going to see the “happier” moments of people posted on social media.

Social media has the power to affect our mood, turn us into attention-craving narcissists, and change what we think of ourselves. Social media make it hard for us to interact with others in real life.

How do we get rid of this unhealthy virtual habit?

Log off

And if that may be hard to do, limit the time you spend on social media by engaging in real-life events. Spend more time outdoors (without checking Facebook every two minutes). Make sure to get into an activity so enjoyable, that you’ll be too preoccupied and enlightened to even check your phone. Read that book that you’ve wanted to read, or dive into some volunteer work at your local community center.

How you feel about yourself is important, as well. There’s no need to envy the lives &/or success of other because we are all blessed during different times in our lives. I remind myself daily. Be comfortable in your own skin. The more you love yourself, the less you’ll have to convince that on social media with endless selfies. We know you’re beautiful..cut that out. What matters is that you know you’re beautiful without validation from others.

In conclusion, it’s really important for everyone to understand that social media is not the real world. It’s a whole nother world where everybody can be anything they want to be…even happy. We’ll never know if someone’s virtual world matches their real world unless we live in the same household. So remember, don’t let your harmless habit of browsing social media negatively impact your self-worth.

Lakia Nichole

Lakia Nichole’s Blog is a platform to showcase love for my people, our culture, and all positive things in-between.