It’s so easy for us to go from 0 to 100 when our kids don’t listen. It’s especially embarrassing when we do it in public, scolding and sometimes having to physically grab a hold of them to scare them into listening to us. Us parents see that we let our emotions get the best of us, but how else are we supposed to handle a child who misbehaves and won’t do what he’s told?

As much as we want our children to listen, we have to understand that they are going to push the wrong buttons at times. We should expect them to do that often. As a result, we find ourselves telling them the same things over and over until thy finally do it. However, the older they get, the less we have to repeat ourselves. The only difference is, the older they get, the more serious the rules become. At age six, we tell them to put their toys away. At age sixteen, we tell them to wait for sex. Will they listen at age six? Yes, but they won’t put the toys away anyway. Will they listen at sixteen? Hopefully, but we have to prepare ourselves to accept that they might become sexually active. Do we yell and scream at them, or do we find a way to stay calm and talk to them peacefully?

Now, I know some of you are reading this and say “Not my bad-ass child!”…LOL

I understand and trust me when I say, I feel for the parents who have a child that refuses to do what any adult tells them. What I say to that is to each his own. You know your child better than anyone else does but remember this… After you’re done blowing steam out of your ears, cussing them out, and popping them upside their heads, do you think you’ve accomplished something? Do you think they’ll listen next time? There are many times when I blew the F Bomb at my kids because they did something I didn’t like. I even popped a head a couple of times. In the end, I didn’t feel any better. In fact, I realized  that I let my anger get the best of me and it was better to calm down before I decide to have a talk with them. We get our points across better when our emotions aren’t at a high.

Kids go through life differently than adults do. At an early age such as six, they are still processing what’s right and what’s wrong in life. They’re going to touch an iron, not thinking it’s going to burn them. They’ll have to learn not to touch a hot iron from experience. It’s a part of growing. We have to remember not to lose it when they do. That’s pretty much what we as parents have to consider about our children.

Lakia Nichole

Lakia Nichole’s Blog is a platform to showcase love for my people, our culture, and all positive things in-between.