If you’re struggling to find out why you keep attracting the wrong people, you can start by looking within yourself. We can point the finger and say it’s “them”, but deep down inside, we have to find fault in our own doings. There’s an inimical pattern when we’re picking the same type of folks to become romantically involved with. The question we have… what’s it gonna take to stop?

We can point the finger and say it’s “them”, but deep down inside, we have to find fault in what we’re doing to attract these people. We have a pattern of picking the same type of folks to become romantically involved with, but why is that?

I’m convinced that it’s all about how we view ourselves, what we display that attracts these people, and what we allow to happen.

We don’t mean to, but we display that of a weak person when we become romantically involved. When our partner picks up on that, he/she uses that to their full advantage in any way, shape or form.

Why?

Because they go into this situationship,¬†intending to get one thing….their wants met. We do what we can to please them, despite our needs being ignored.

We do what we can to please them, despite our needs being ignored.

A weak person is a person who doesn’t see her/his worth, doesn’t value self, and doesn’t protect her/his own heart like they should. In order to stop attracting the wrong people; people who will take advantage of you and not care for you like you should care for yourself, you have to stop treating yourself the way you allow them to treat you…like shit.

We have to get rid of the weak parts if we want to stop attracting opportunists. We can start by protecting our hearts.

How do we do that?

…by realizing that our time, energy, and effort is too valuable to be spent on unacceptable behavior.

…by making it known to our partner that if we can’t meet each other half way emotionally, there’s no need to continue the “relationship”.

That’s all followed by a sudden change in how we see ourselves; more valued and worthy of a genuine connection. The decisions we make are reflected by how we see ourselves. Eventually, how we see ourselves is how others will see us, too.

If you treat yourself like shit, they will too.

If you treat yourself like you’re worthy, they will too.

 

It’s that simple.

 

Lakia Nichole
Lakia Nichole's Blog is a platform to showcase love for my people, our culture, and all positive things in-between.