What’s the most common excuse that single people use when we experience the shortcomings of someone we’re dating?

“(S)He’s just not my type.”

The older I’ve got, the less I’ve relied on having types. In fact, having a type has been pretty much non-existent for me. I’ve learned that we could truly miss out on blessings if we focus on the “must haves” and the “should nevers”. The person whose minor shortcomings you put too much focus on could have the biggest heart and treat you like you belong on a throne.

If we really think about it, our “type” could also reflect our desire to date someone that’s similar to us. However, there’s a disadvantage to that. There’s a saying that we are who we attract. If you’re a weirdo, you’re gonna attract a weirdo. If you’re emotionally messy, you’re gonna attract an even more emotionally messy person, so dating your type could be like  messing with a double-edged sword. Be careful.

 

Personality, looks, and similar interests all play a role in determining our ideal type but remember, if your goal is long term relationship with possible marriage, none of that matters if their heart is not in the right place with yours. You guys could be in sink goal-wise and even with similar interests, but that person could also be an asshole.

Choose wisely.

Better yet, get rid of the idea of having “a type”. It shouldn’t matter if they’re too short, too tall, too nice, etc. Get rid of your shallow-like behavior and try giving that short person, that tall person, or that “too nice” person a chance. So what if this person’s job is at a pizza delivery spot? Every experience has a story behind it, so don’t judge. This is where overlooking their shortcomings (according to you) won’t hurt because you’re  trying something that doesn’t fit the mold. Breaking away from your type can be a very good thing.

 

As far as adding this video, I have no reason other than it goes with the message in my blog…LOL

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