There’s a certain level of maturity one must have to have good dating experiences. Dating can be fun and enjoyable, as long as the person you’re dating isn’t using the same techniques and fulfilling the habits that were used while in their twenties…or even their teens. Like fine wine, dating SHOULD get better with age. Unfortunately, some folks do not believe in that sentiment.

Here are five dating habits that should get dropped as you get older!

Using your phone– The purpose for dating is getting to know the person. If you’re constantly texting, answering calls, or checking your social media, that not only screams rudeness, but it shows lack of effort in getting to know the person you’re with. Your full attention should be on him/her. Turn your phone off and show common courtesy.

The “figuring things out” excuse– This excuse is bullshit, especially if you’ve been dating the person for at least six months. What else is there to figure out??? At a certain point, you already know what a few of his/her underwear look like, as well as family life, desires, and this person is obviously liking you enough to stick around past 3 months, so either you’re all in or all out. Grow up and recognize when you’re in an adult relationship.

Being stuck in the past-This includes bringing up past loves, being doubtful about who you’re dating because of what happened in old relationships, or simply making the person you’re dating suffer because of what you went through with the last person. All of that could definitely hurt what could be the best relationship you’ll ever have. Don’t destroy it by living in the past.

Too picky– It’s okay to have standards unless your standards come with a list of must-haves, ranging from Idris Elba/Janet Jackson looks to a seven-figure income. Be mindful…sometimes, that person who looks like a model with an impressive bank account could be an asshole who will either abuse you or cheat on you. As you get older, you’ll realize that it’s not about any of that (looks, material possessions, etc). It’s about the genuine love this person could have for you.

Sex on the brain– This is not good, considering you’re still getting to know the person. If it’s a first date, being too forward and pressing for sex is a guaranteed last date in the process. Take things slowly because it’s the right thing to do. Unless you’re both horny dogs and planned the night to end with acrobatic, hot, butt-nekkid sex, being patient is necessary if you want the union to be taken seriously.

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