As single mothers, it’s impossible to go through a whole year, or even a few months, without navigating through tough situations. I’m a witness that despite my setbacks, I continue to stay optimistic. My circumstances will never outweigh all of the accomplishments I have thus far. As a person who is determined to make a better life for her kids, no amount of negativity or set back is powerful enough to keep me down. It’s all about keeping a positive attitude, moms. Even during your most troubled times. Here are 8 ways to stay positive as a single mother.
Meditate- This is a surefire way to keep you balanced and at ease. Single mothers deal with a lot, especially if there’s barely any help from the dad. Meditation centers you just enough to keep you from becoming overwhelmed. Only then is when you can come to solutions to your problems without the need to stress. We function better when our emotions aren’t too heavy and guess what?…it even helps lower your blood pressure!
Stay optimistic- As hard as it may seem, staying optimistic is a good way to keep from going into depression &/or sadness. Just remember, before everything good happens, everything falls apart. If you’re going to tough times now as a single mom, just know it’s a temporary setback to a permanent blessing.
Stay cordial with dad- Let’s face it, we’ll always co-parent with the dad, so why not remain cordial? Even if there was a bad break-up, staying “friendly” will help alleviate some of the ill feelings you have. If you can stand to be in the same room with dad, then you’re on to a good start. Being cordial requires a lot of effort on both sides, I’m sure. But remember…the more you both look out for each other, the easier things will be for you, mom. If for whatever reason dad isn’t in the picture at all, use his absence as a stepping stone to becoming a SuperMom, proudly rockin’ your cape.
Be selfish- It’s okay to be selfish with your time because you deserve to. Having time for yourself helps you to keep from pulling hairs. Because of the day to day task of dropping your kid off, working your 9 to 5, picking your kid up, and doing motherly duties, bedtime would be the only time for you to enjoy. Not quite beneficial if you’re sleeping, only to wake up and do it all over again. You need a sufficient amount of time to recoup. Plan a weekend getaway for yourself. It’s the perfect way to reflect on what’s needed in your life to establish peace.
Have conversations with your child(ren)- Kids has a way of showing you how easy it is for us to have a better outlook on life. Their innocent young minds are filled with thoughts of the three Fs- fun, freedom, and fulfillment. Naturally so, because they have yet to experience a generous amount of responsibility. By having enlightening conversations with our kids, they’ll remind us how we should implement those three Fs into our daily lives.
Work on goal/hobby- Doing something that pleases you not only takes your mind off the stressful stuff, but you’ll never know what may come out of it unless you stick with it. Want to learn how to play an instrument? Invest in the instrument and practice! Wanna learn how to drive? Sign up for a class! Wanna launch a blog site? Build it! Wanna become a makeup artist? Create your portfolio! Any goal or hobby you’ve always wanted to do, you have the chance to do it.
Log Off- the time you spend on social media could be the time you could use to better yourself. Log off and enjoy life. You’ll also get to know a little more about yourself when you’re not investing too much time on social media. The more you learn about yourself, the more you’ll know what you’ll want out of life as opposed to struggling with it.
Love the life you live- Although you’ve been faced with many challenges as a single mom, you’ve had the ability to endure them and you still stand strong. Your perseverance is proof that as long as you have a heartbeat, you can overcome anything. Let your sacrifices, heartbreak, disappointments, and struggles become your lessons and motivate to you live the best life you deserve.